Am I overreacting

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H came upstairs to run his shower. I was in the bathroom washing my hands and when finished, I jokingly wiped my wet hand on his face. He giggled and I thought all was good.

As I finished drying my hands, he grabbed the shower which was on full speed and directed it at me. I said please don't do that and he proceeded to do it again, at my face leaving me with wet hair, face a T-shirt.

I'm really quite upset about it and he says I'm overreacting. I asked why he did it when I asked him not to and he said "because it's funny".

I really don't think it is funny

Yeah it's funny to him, annoying to you. Just let it go

I think it may have just been a bit of fun which got out of hand.

You started it.

Were you dressed and going somewhere?
Were you in slobby clothes about to get in the shower after?
Are you a jokey kind of couple?
Did he clean up the water after?
Would you think he’d do it again?
Would you do it to him?
Have you done similar?

The above questions will determine the context which is essential.

I feel like wiping a wet finger on someone is slightly different to blasting a full shower head on someone's face after asking them not to do it a first time

YABU. Don't start silly games if you don't want it to happen to you back. Seems like he got a bit carried away.

And no, he didn't clean it up. I would never direct a flowing shower head at someone let alone if they had already asked me not to and no, I had clothes on and wasn't going in the shower

Flush the loo repeatedly while he showers..

Go and turn the kitchen tap on 👍🏻

He hasn't spoken to me all day either (this was last night). When he did come out of the shower he kept shining his phone torch into my eye too. I don't know if he's being a child or being an arsehole

You started it and to be fair he took it too far. Oh well.

Snuggle up behind him and drop an ice cube down his back

Jug full of cold water thrown at him as he leaves the shower. I'm immature so maybe don't listen to me.

BTW, think YABalittlebitU - you kinda started it.

You kind of started it. He took it further, but if you’re not prepared for that, don’t start it in the first place.

My husband always squirts water at me from the iron/flips water when he's in the shower. I do stuff similar back to him- its all good natured. If he could see I was upset/angry by it though I'd expect him to stop....but you did start it

I’d have found someone wiping their wet hand on my face quite disrespectful, to be honest. He probably did too, so he retaliated.

I agree that a wet hand is very different to a full shower head.

My DH would not do this - he would prob kiss me with a wet face!

Not talking to you today?

Has he always been sulky like this? I had an ex who hit me because I splashed water - he always wanted to get me back "more"??? I never hit him.

You were both messing about and he got carried away, it happens at times, you are being a bit of a snowflake to be honest.

Wasn't the bathroom soaking?

Do you normally engage in this kind of horseplay?

Someone wiping their wet hand on me would piss me off-I’m not to know what they’ve just been doing with that hand in the bathroom, freshly washed or not!

Maybe he thought so too? Or maybe he thought he’d tease you back?

Nope, not to that extreme anyway! The hand thing has happened before though.

I think the main thing that's pissed me off is the fact he did it again, despite me asking him not to do it.

But I ABU it seems

Grow up. If you can't take it then don't start it.

I think yanbu. Although it all sounds a bit infantile. If he didn't like it id expect him to say so. Not escalate it in to some messy, childish competition.

Unless this happened in the context of a regular weird couples game or something.

The light in the eye thing is even worse.

Tbh I'd be furious.

My boyfriend and I love horsing around like this but we're always very quick to apologise and stop if it goes too far. Otherwise it's no fun!

Blasting a shower at someone is pretty hard-core. It's nothing like putting a wet hand on someone. I can only imagine considering it if it were a really hot day and my boyfriend were semi-dressed about to get in shower. And if it were clear he found it funny.

Spraying a shower at someone after they've said stop isn't fun--that's aggressive and weird. What a jerk.

I would have been REALLT annoyed if you'd put a wet hand on my face. Yabvu.