Am I overreacting

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H came upstairs to run his shower. I was in the bathroom washing my hands and when finished, I jokingly wiped my wet hand on his face. He giggled and I thought all was good.

As I finished drying my hands, he grabbed the shower which was on full speed and directed it at me. I said please don't do that and he proceeded to do it again, at my face leaving me with wet hair, face a T-shirt.

I'm really quite upset about it and he says I'm overreacting. I asked why he did it when I asked him not to and he said "because it's funny".

I really don't think it is funny

Things like this can quite often escalate. However because you asked him not to do it again, he shouldn't have. It's one thing mucking around, but it crosses a line when someone carries on despite being told to stop. As an isolated incident I wouldnt be bothered. But him not talking to you Is silly, and surely him shining his phone torch is a dick move

For God's sake.

What he did was aggressive and creepy. If he didn't like the wet hand thing, he could have just said so.

If he genuinely thought the shower thing would be funny, he should have stopped the moment you said "no" and handed you a towel.

On threads like this you do get people coming out of the woodwork to defend aggressive behaviour from men. A weird twist here is people telling the OP, "He's not abusive!" when she hasn't actually said he is. Wow, projection much?

🙄 you literally did start it. And maybe you shouldn’t have if you’re prone to overreact! And I think being ‘really quite upset is really overreacting.

You are overreacting - yes it sounds annoying, but you started it.

You shouldn't have started the stupid game, it w childish. You can't now complain cos your bush's followed suit

Husband not bush

I would absolutely hate wet hands down my face, the thought makes me cringe, same as the wet finger in the ear. I wouldn't care about being sprayed with a shower in jest though unless I was dressed and ready to go out. Everyone has different boundaries. DH probably thought ha, I'll get her back like you do generally during horseplay and it tends to escalate. YABU because you started it

this is why there is an unwritten rule in our house never to chuck or splatter or splash any kind of water or start water fights..because out comes the bucket.me and my dad are fucking monsters.but this strted at around the age of 7 so the game is set now.
so in your own family i think this is difficult or anyone else to know.

I notice everyone is ignoring that he carried on shining a light in her eyes and ignoring her all day? Is that tit for tat fun?

I think the wet hand on someones face is a bit gross but your husband's OTT retaliation and sulking and torch in face behaviour is a bit wierd and he comes across as a bit of an arsehole.

You threw down the gauntlet and he picked it up, his response was OTT and clumsy but not malicious. You need to not sulk over this, you need to suck it up, dry, sort your face out and get on with your day.

I really don't think it is funny

A wet hand in his face probably wasn't funny to him either.

I think he is being an a’hole now actually. Spraying you once with the shower was retaliation enough. My abusive partner poured jugs of water on me in bed to humiliate me and enjoyed it. I hope this isn’t the start of more bullying incidents as he is not joking around if he is sulking now. Keep your wits about you.