Does everyone feel like this? Mysophonia?

[MaintainTheMolehill]

I always thought everyone was like this until DH said it's just me.
I cope fine with loud noises, concerts, shouting etc but if there are two loud noises or more at the same time, I can't cope and find I am panicky, agitated and angry.
For example if the TV is loud and someone is talking, I feel like this.

Does anyone else or AIBU?

open plan offices are very difficult places for me Preach. Also social friday cake time (common in scandi-land). I can bear it for about ... 5 minutes on a good day, not at all on a bad one!

Interesting that this thread has just popped up on my active list as I read this very interesting article yesterday: www.theguardian.com/global/2020/mar/01/please-be-quite-my-search-for-a-noise-free-life-emma-beddington

I don't have mysophonia but I really have to have peace and quiet and anyone sniffing or biting their nails etc is the worst.

People saying the sound of people eating - just that alone does not mean you are a sufferer , I don’t know anybody on this earth who ‘likes’ that sound ,that’s why we were taught to eat with our mouths closed .
This thread alone is actually starting to irk me as misophonia practically rules my life , we had to move out of our last house because of it so it’s a lot more than disliking or being annoyed by certain sounds .
Some noises , normal noises at that , can turn me into a wreck in as little as a couple of minutes .
The sounds can also cause physical pain in my head and change my mood in a split second . It’s hell

I feel you Fluffy. They're on the same spectrum but misophonia is on the WILD end of that scale and it's far removed from simple low level irritation. I've had misophonia responses that have left me passed out for a couple of hours due to stress exhaustion once the stimuli was removed. There's no just getting on with it, it's not ignorable.

@Damntheman it’s bloody awful isn’t it, especially when people don’t understand . Luckily dh finally gets it so helps where he can if the situation calls for it .
I think it’s pisses me off when people are like “oh I have that “ as it’s like when others say they have OCD because they like their tv volume on an even number or wipe down cupboard handles eye role

@Fluffybutter I think you're being a bit unfair, you don't know the extent of anyone else's distress, only your own. For all you know many of the people on this thread are suffering to the same extent. Perhaps your contribution could be more positive by explaining how you got a diagnosis and how you manage your condition rather than saying your condition is worse than anyone else.

I understand Fluffy's frustration. While it remains a difficult condition to get a diagnosis for (mine required my gp and 2 separate psychologists over 2 years) it's very easy to claim to have it. But also very difficult to know the extent of anyone else's suffering at the same time. It's a hard one. A lot of people clearly don't understand it, and it can feel very isolating to attempt to get support.

@Fluffybutter I feel exactly the same. I've nearly failed exams because of it and at the very least had much lower marks than I would have done had there been silence.

I get physical pain.

People disliking the sound of eating does not make miso phobia.

Sorry iPhone changed that last word

I really struggle with this.

Hard consonants at the end of words.
Sybillant sounds.
That 'tt' noise people sometimes make between sentences and swallowing.
Slurping. Chewing. Hacking up phlegm.
Cardboard being handled.
Polystyrene.
Humming.
Whistling.
The noise "erm".
Certain words in accents "thank yew"
High pitched inflection at the end of a sentence.
Static.
Boiling water.

It gives me absolute uncontrollable rage and makes me want to cry in frustration. It's worse if I am tired. It 100% affects my life, especially in work.

Sounds extremely familiar. I had clashing noises. If the TV is on then someone starts playing some stupid video on their phone for example, it sends me into blind rage.

@S0upertrooper I don’t “deal with it” so have no advice to give .
I’ve had it years , only taken seriously in the last 3 and that was like walking up a down escalator .
I’ve had counselling, various doctors and hearing tests . Was starting to think I was mad and others did too .
I truly feel for anyone suffering from this and it is suffering , whether it’s diagnosed or not but I don’t feel I’m unfair to be annoyed at some of the comments .

@TheNoiseHurts I’m sorry to hear that.
It’s also really hard when you’re sitting there in tears and everyone else is oblivious.
Like I said before , dh is a lot better at understanding now but I still catch him now and then getting annoyed with me like “here we go” but I can’t blame him as it’s so hard to understand how a simple sound can set you off and linger long after the noise has stopped

I have to have subtitles on when watching TV. I'm not hearing impaired at all but cannot concentrate on dialogue whilst there is background music playing.
When my in laws visit they'll both hold conversations with different people across the room and I have to excuse myself as my head feels like it will explode.