Does everyone feel like this? Mysophonia?

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I always thought everyone was like this until DH said it's just me.
I cope fine with loud noises, concerts, shouting etc but if there are two loud noises or more at the same time, I can't cope and find I am panicky, agitated and angry.
For example if the TV is loud and someone is talking, I feel like this.

Does anyone else or AIBU?

I've found my people!

I really struggle to explain or have it understood by those around me just how hard it is to have competing noises, but definitely go into 'fight, flight, freeze' mode (without the fight bit), I just can't cope with competing noises.

A recent Christmas work night out for a meal and tribute band with lots of other groups of people was my idea of hell and I really struggled through it and couldn't wait to leave at the earliest opportunity...I actually needed a couple of days of near total quiet to get over it.

My work is thinking if locating from our small offices with a maximum of 4 people per office to an open plan 'call centre' type of office, I fear this happening as I know I won't cope, I actually think I'll need to change jobs if we move.

I remember having a meltdown in IKEA once as I was so overloaded with the competing noises and people everywhere, it was awful (and embarrassing)...Maybe I should become a recluse...

Off to Google Auditory Processing Disorder.

I was in a public loo with some friends and a young girl, maybe about 3, came in with her mum and started singing. When she left my friends said 'ah, wasn't that sweet' and I said 'no, adults should teach their children not to sing in public places'. It surprised my friends as I love kids, but it's just too loud. And I do really believe that children need to be taught to think of others with regards to the noise they make - even if it's lovely noise.

Oh my god, I just googled APD and realised this is why I can't understand a bloody radio! I have to consciously piece together what people are saying from the nonsense that my brain first hears - it's exhausting! At least my OH knows to turn the radio off when I come into the room now.

This is exactly me. Dh walks around the house listening to podcasts very loudly plus other house noise- it really gives me the rage! It’s like I’m being talked at nonstop. I just makes me want to scream fuck of!!!

My DP is like this, he has TV up loud then talks loudly so I can hear him over it. Just turn the telly down! Same as in the car he'll talk and talk and if I'm driving I can't pay attention to him and concentrate on driving as well, gets me really annoyed!

Eating my DH is such a noisy eater it actually pisses me off the noise .He won't believe he is noisy but he is i actually can't listen as it just boils me .

I know this is an old thread but I am so pleased to have found it! DS2 is autistic, on the severe end of the spectrum, and has verbal language at about the level of a 2 year old. He has a real aversion to talking - in the house it comes and goes ( depending, I think, on his general anxiety level) but when he’s in a vehicle he literally can’t stand any talking at all and will shout at us to stop if we even say one word. This thread has helped me to understand some of the reasons why.
Can anyone think of anything we can do to help him ( he already wears headphones and it makes no difference)?

I can't stand people eating around me - I have to breathe so deeply. I find the chewing, champing noise goes straight to my fight or flight. Any repetative noise does it though so throat clearing, tapping, humming and I want to run away.

At home I play music during meal times and that helps a lot.

My husband has mysophonia and just can’t listen to people eating, crunching, slurping. That doesn’t bother me. But I get really annoyed when people talk over each other on the television or radio: particularly radio. Perhaps we both have different forms of mysophonia!

I’ve had this for about 9 years .
It’s slowly got worse .
I find it’s any noise I personally can’t control ,like noise from neighbours , cars idling outside , snoring , people eating , music from other people’s headphones .. the list goes on.
I’ve also now slept with earplugs for about 7 years

AUDITORY PROCESSING DISORDER - yes shouting it over the noise.
If I'm ever accused of murder it will be for someone eating noisily. Phones/tv/voices give me stress. AND if I have to say 'I can hear volume just not the entire din at once I may do GBH

Me too

If two people talk at once I just seize up.

Also this

I have this and it still bemuses and frustrates DH. He can have the radio blaring voices then try and talk to me

I thought this was hyper accousis though not misogynistic

Misphonia!

Your not alone. I actually moved house as I couldn’t cope with the sound of trains and cars and planes all together. It’s like physical pain. So many sounds do this to me, particularly clapping on TV. Heartbreakingly, my toddlers whining is one of my trigger noises and I find it really hard. DH is fab though and totally gets it.

I struggle with noise too! People tapping pens is a particularly bad one (I'm a teacher!), humming, whistling.

Can't abide noisy eaters either - I find it hard to be in the same room.

I need to live in a bubble!

I adore both my amazing son and my beloved oh...

But they have both Learned to eat crunchy things like tortilla flipping chips or hula flaming hoops a looooong way away from me.

my son's voice at the moment is at that akward transitional stage. It's so loud and squawky and is driving me crazy !

Me too. I also have tinnitus and small gearing loss and I wonder if they are related somehow.

Hearing

Oh yes this is me! If I am in a crowded room I have to concentrate so hard on what someone is saying and the noise makes me feel really really angry.

I voted YABU not because you are, but because this doesn't happen to me. I am okay with two noises at the same time. However, weirdly I am freaked out by jazz as I can't stand the lack of melody - I find it really unsettling and uncomfortable

I can’t handle two different types of music at once. Like when my OH plays his ukulele whilst my dd’a toy is playing music. I absolutely cannot bare it!

Me too. Much worse when I’m tired. Have actually resorted to wearing my son’s ear defenders at times (he is not autistic - bought them for his first fireworks display years ago). Also prone to depression and anxiety and vertigo. I wonder if there’s something going on with serotonin and the ears...

There’s a name for this?!?!