Was with ex dp for 5 years. In the end I was doing all the cleaning, shopping etc because I have an office job and he was on his feet all day at his job. Had an OK relationship with his parents and his mum was very happy when we got engaged. His dad said 'oh'. His older sister never really made any effort with me and nor did his younger brother but I always tried and was polite. My DF had cancer last year (was caught early and he is now in remission) and his last round of chemo was January 2019...I was excitedly telling ex dp parents this and his mum just says 'well at his age he will just get something else and that will kill him) ex dp just said oh she didn't mean it etc etc. It then came to light ex dp had kept a secret from me this whole time ad was arrested for looking at inappropriate images before meeting me and had to go to some sort of counseling and report to police every so often. He made no effort with my family despite me trying with his. But we had the same sense of humor and he helped me when I was I'll. He just became lazy and uninterested in the wedding plans and his mum's comments Andre fact he didn't tell her to shut up really upset me. Its been 8 months but I still miss him terribly. He refuses to speak to me. I did the right thing though?