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To claim against this man?

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YoureAQuizardHarry · 27/12/2019 06:30

😩😭 Christmas Eve we were driving to mums and we stopped to get a McDonald’s Husband was inside ordering, I let both dogs out for a pee and as I walking in the car park someone reversed out of a space at speed so I jumped onto the grass slipped and landed with my left leg underneath me and I was sat on my knee, it definitely dislocated and I felt a snapping, it’s so tight and swollen.

It's got stiffer and stiffer over the 3 days, I can't put my foot on the floor fully as my calc is too tight, my back and upper side hurts because I'm walking like a weirdo.. everything hurts!

I should have gone to A&E but I really didn't want to, however now I regret it! I shouted at him from the floor covered in mud and god knows what, and he said 'sorry I thought it was in drive not reverse'

Is it his insurance or mine I claim on? Because I am hurt.

Also.. what the hell do I do with this leg? It's fucking useless! I can't bend it, I can't put my full weight on it, I can't straighten it fully, it's huge, I have tingly sensations on the opposite side to the swelling all the way down to my ankle, I have to walk upstairs with it kind of off the side and when I'm up and walking through the pain if I move in a funny way or try remotely to do anything exciting like a small bit of pivoting it feels like it's going to give way so I nearly fall over and jerk wildly grabbing at furniture.

It took me over an hour on Christmas Eve to get off the floor Blush

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Ffsseriously · 27/12/2019 13:46

@vassdal this is very true and on reflection my story has no relevance Grin and I do agree there is something fishy about ops story and reaction.

MrsWhites · 27/12/2019 13:51

Thinking about this a bit more...how on Earth were you left lying on the floor for an hour without someone intervening? Did none of the McDonald’s trained first aiders come out and offer help or ring an ambulance? If I were the driver I certainly wouldn’t have driven off without knowing that you were at least on your feet or on your way to a&e etc. Lastly there is no way my husband would watch me lying on a muddy grass verge without insisting on a&e or if I still couldn’t get up with support then again calling an ambulance! Something doesn’t add up here!

LaMarschallin · 27/12/2019 13:53

LarryTheLurker

The level of understanding on here makes me glad court hearings about injury claims don't have juries.

If they had juries wouldn't they also have lawyers acting on behalf of each person to put their respective cases in a clear fashion, surely?

Not one poster telling their story and telling it in such a way as to put people's backs up.

And in future be very cautious about asking MN for legal advice.

Well, yes.

Maybe the OP should sue as MN isn't displaying a legal disclaimer pointing out that they're not called "We'reExperiencedLawyersAskUsAnythingNet".

(Joking, OP! Don't get your hopes up)

vassdal · 27/12/2019 13:59

Thinking about this a bit more...how on Earth were you left lying on the floor for an hour without someone intervening? Did none of the McDonald’s trained first aiders come out and offer help or ring an ambulance? If I were the driver I certainly wouldn’t have driven off without knowing that you were at least on your feet or on your way to a&e etc. Lastly there is no way my husband would watch me lying on a muddy grass verge without insisting on a&e or if I still couldn’t get up with support then again calling an ambulance! Something doesn’t add up here!

I understood the OP differently - I assumed she meant when she was at home on Christmas Eve after the accident she took an hour to get off the floor - as opposed to an hour to get off the grass verge (in which case, you're quite correct - someone would have called an ambulance and the driver presumably wouldn't have driven off).

No sign of the OP any more so she can't clarify what happened. Maybe she has gone to A&E an is having her leg treated.

DartmoorChef · 27/12/2019 14:00

I can't believe you haven't been to hospital yet. I had a leg accident. Nothing broken but torn ligaments meant my leg swelled up horrendously and I needed an operation to put wires in my knee to hold the ligaments back. You really need to get checked out.

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YoureAQuizardHarry · 27/12/2019 14:03

Right well.. according to all the horrendous posts on here I'm unreasonable.. I'm also fat and caused the injury to myself..

I went to A&E this morning and they confirmed I've torn my Cruciate ligament and torn the meniscus. I had a phone call from the police this morning as the driver reported himself.

I didn't go to hospital earlier because my family have just had the biggest loss ever, and I needed to coordinate funeral appointments and also arrange care for siblings who have mental and physical issues. I will never be posting on this site again.

Mumsnet have agreed to take this thread down as it is now a police matter.

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YoureAQuizardHarry · 27/12/2019 14:03

I will need surgery to repair my knee

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YoureAQuizardHarry · 27/12/2019 14:05

Nobody helped me get up in the car park, I meant when I was at my families house, after wrapping presents, that didn't even get opened as it was too overwhelming for my sibling.

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Besidesthepoint · 27/12/2019 14:10

I'm sorry for your loss. Please also take care of yourself. Get more help for the arrangements if you have to. Plenty of friends and neighbours can help as well.

RufusthebewiIderedreindeer · 27/12/2019 14:12

according to all the horrendous posts on here I'm unreasonable

Loads of people didnt say you were unreasonable

Hope your leg gets better soon

midep · 27/12/2019 14:15

A few of us did suspect a ruptured ligament OP, but you have certainly had some ridiculous posts so I don't blame you for being upset. Flowers

turnthebiglightoff · 27/12/2019 14:16

We just wanted to know what you were claiming for. You haven't had to have any time off work or surgery YET. If you do have to have surgery it will undoubtedly be on the NHS which is free. So I'm struggling as yet to see where the compense part of compensation is needed?

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 27/12/2019 14:20

You can claim for personal injury,it doesn't have to be because you had time off work.

VeganCow · 27/12/2019 14:21

This is exactly what drivers have insurance for. It was his fault, so yes get to hospital then go see a solicitor and make a claim. If you have an extra personal injury part thats attached to your car or house insurance, you will be able to use that to begin proceedings for personal injury.

Crazycrazylady · 27/12/2019 14:32

Honestly since he didn't hit you I think it would be next to impossible to claim even if you had gone to a&e.. he'll say he would have stopped and not hit you and there was no need to you to be jumping around the place.

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YoureAQuizardHarry · 27/12/2019 14:34

Well he's reported himself to the police so it's in their hands now. I really had no option other than to dive 'all over the place' if I hadn't he would have hit me. But clearly I am being very unreasonable.

If anyone has any idea of how to get an adult with Down syndrome into residential care I'd be very grateful of the help. I can't look after them now and the only other family member we had that they lived with has just died.

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jamdhanihash · 27/12/2019 14:42

OP might be better to start another thread about residential care for DS seeing as you've arranged for this to be deleted. Glad you've been to A&E. What treatment have you been given?

RufusthebewiIderedreindeer · 27/12/2019 14:45

What jam said

And i know im repeating myself but not everyone said you were unreasonable

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YoureAQuizardHarry · 27/12/2019 14:47

Strapped up with a hinged knee brace it's a monstrous thing. I've also got crutches and pain killers.

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Scarsthelot · 27/12/2019 14:59

@LarryTheLurker the gear box you linked isnt the same in all automatics. And you need to depress the break. We dont know that man was driving an automatic or what type it was.

The tragic consequences piece you linked was actually cause by her leaving it in reverse and not applying the parking brake AND panicking.

I couldn't be bothered clicking anymore as they dont support your stance.

WiseUpJanetWeiss · 27/12/2019 15:11

OP you need to contact adult social services about your relative’s care. There are residential homes for people with learning disabilities that do both long term and respite care. I hope you both get the support you need.

For what it’s worth, I can hardly believe the unpleasantness and misinformation on this thread.

LaMarschallin · 27/12/2019 15:37

OP might be better to start another thread about residential care for DS seeing as you've arranged for this to be deleted

Well, yes. Presumably it will disappear soon.
You could, perhaps, start a thread asking not how to arrange the care but for support, since no-one here can tell you what to do. If someone then has some useful knowledge, so much the better.

It would have made a difference to my responses here if you'd actually given a small amount of info as to your circumstances.
It wouldn't have changed what I thought but I wouldn't have posted my thoughts, iyswim.
People aren't mind readers and I'm sure many, like me, take posts at their face value.
Of course that can mean thinking, "Gosh - I wish I'd known that" when some other info is posted later.

Obviously, I offer my condolences for your loss and your family difficulties.

Soontobe60 · 27/12/2019 17:47

In terms of drip feeds, that’s got to be one if the biggest!
So your first post was asking who’s insurance to claim off for your dislocated and broken knee and you end with asking how to get residential care for a relative with Downs🤨.

TitianaTitsling · 27/12/2019 17:55

Would you not be best directing the residential care questions at social work? How is it a police matter?

tinytoast · 27/12/2019 18:02

What the hell is going on? How did this go from an injured knee to an adult with down syndrome??

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