Not allowing my kids to be flower girls

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Long story short, my mums ex husband my step dad has asked my children to be his flower girls. The woman who is due to marry is whom he had a an affair with but more of my issue is he has barely seen my children in the 2 years since the divorce or bothered with me

AIBU in declining as I really don’t want any part of it. I have two younger brothers who really want my kids to be apart but it’s a huge betrayal to my mum isn’t it?!

My Exh had an affair and I’ve always been open with DC about it in a calm, age appropriate way. They see his girlf who was OW EOW. I didn’t want them forming a close relationship and then in years to come feeling compromised when they inevitably learnt of the circs. So Daddy and Mummy used to be married, but Daddy had xxx as his girlfriend which isn’t allowed so he went to live with her.

Your mum will really value any show if loyalty right now.

Pogmella that is a really sensible approach.