To feel I've been completely 'mugged off'?
BBOA · 26/12/2019 20:23
Family invited themselves to Christmas Eve buffet at our house at 11am as we have more room. (Still only a semi). Explained I was working the Monday and would need to get shopping 1st thing so 12.30 better. Family drop their buffet food off at 11.00 anyway and then go off for walk leaving me and DH to cook food. Expected them back at 12.30 but 1.00 comes and goes. They finally pitch up about 1.30 claiming walk took longer and no real apologies. Turns out walk took longer as they stopped off for a coffee!!! Additional detail is that it took an hour and a half to cook their buffet food. We have Gluten free /vegan diets so couldnt eat their stuff, some of which required complex 'construction'. Once they did sit down they did feck all and were waited on hand and foot whilst their bonkers dog constantly kept jumping up on the table, ruining the table cloth I was hoping to use Christmas day.
I'm not interested in hearing that Christmas is all about giving as I was knackered, recovering from flu and had spent hours tidying the house. They flat out lied about stopping for coffee and let us cook everything. Are they complete at utter CF's or is it my imagination????!!!
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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FGSJoanWhatsWrongWithYou · 26/12/2019 20:40
Are you a martyr and/or afraid of confrontation?
Once they did sit down they did feck all and were waited on hand and foot whilst their bonkers dog constantly kept jumping up on the table
It's family. You tell them to get up and do jobs. You tell them to bring food that doesn't need cooking. If it needs cooking you make them do the prep. The dog jumps up once and you make them put it in the crate or outside.
All of this from the very start could have been solved with you putting your foot down. NY resolution needed to learn how to say no to people how to get your own way.
RunningAwaywiththeCircus · 26/12/2019 20:54
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BBOA · 26/12/2019 21:54
Thanks for the comments. Yes need to man up... Did keep shouting at dog to get down....90 minutes to cook all different nibbles and the construction was stupid mini burgers etc.. Damnthatanxiety....
Helpful but not helpful. Its actually quite upsetting. Bigchris... 'Harping' on about the coffee as they lied about it. If they had fessed up and said we stopped for a drink but they were busy so didn't get served for ages, that would have been fine. Lying is not. Won't happen again for sure! Thanks again.
CJsGoldfish · 26/12/2019 21:54
In this whole scenario, why is the coffee such a big deal? It would seem to be the least of your problems that they stopped for coffee, surely?
What is the history that has you waiting hand and foot on people you don't like with a dog that continuously jumped up in your house? Is there a reason you didn't stand up for yourself? You seem so passive.
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