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Infuriating in laws - Christmas rant!

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TwinklyLightsForXmas · 26/12/2019 15:24

Arrgghh! Please tell me it's not just me that is about to explode with Christmas frustration at the in laws?! My MIL, FIL and SIL are just so overbearing and interfering with an opinion on everything. I can't bear it so have come up with an excuse to not see them this afternoon but I need some tactics to deal with them as I can't avoid them forever (if only!)! SIL in particular is a total know it all and will just butt in when you are in mid sentence. I was asked directly by DH yesterday what the Xmas deserts were and I was half way through listing them and she interrupted me to finish my sentence 😡. Seems small in isolation but she does it ALL the time and my patience is wearing incredibly thin! How do you tolerate annoying in laws. Please send me your tips and tricks. After 20 years of putting up with them, my tolerance is low! Thanks 🙏

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paulinespeaksmanylanguages · 26/12/2019 16:47

No, OP. By asking how he coped with HIS in-laws- I meant how does he cope with your parents?

FlamingoQueen · 26/12/2019 16:51

My fil interrupted my ds last Boxing Day. Fil asked him about his college plans, he started saying and was rudely interrupted with ‘friends son next door did that course’ and started going on about it. Ds looked at me, I said ‘don’t bother’ and that was it. It’s now been 1 whole year since we’ve seen them and there are no plans too either. Some people will always think they know better and their opinions count more than yours. Just walk off or say to DH ‘ask your Mum, she seems to know what’s going on!’. Good luck

Hollywolly1 · 26/12/2019 16:52

Jeeze all I know is in laws seems to bring out the best in families this time of year and funny enough on mumsnet all the cheaters seem to come to the surface to.All I can say is try keep the peace and it will all pass

Twinklelikethechristmastree · 26/12/2019 16:54

Yup mines just made a comment about my mental health that is wanting me to expload. They were here all day until 10.30 last night and here since 12 today we can't have our tv on because they hate the tv. So I'm literally bored out of my mind.

mummyway · 26/12/2019 17:00

Op please say something to the sil or else you will be dealing with this for the rest of your life.......

Snowpatrolling · 26/12/2019 17:02

I absolutely hate this and had a few friend that have done this.
I always say, I haven’t finished talking
Or do you mind I was mid sentence. Call them out on behaviour Cos it’s damn rude!!

ChocolateTeapots1 · 26/12/2019 17:11

I have a great tip/trick I don't spend it with them . Hope that helps!

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 26/12/2019 17:11

we can't have our tv on because they hate the tv. So I'm literally bored out of my mind.

What the fuck?! Why the hell are you letting them dictate what you do in your own house? Put the fucking tv on and they can go home if they don’t like it. There’s a difference between being a good host and being a doormat.

LellyMcKelly · 26/12/2019 17:31

I just wave them down and say loudly, ‘Hang on, shush a minute. let me finish before I forget my train of thought’.

houselikeashed · 26/12/2019 17:36

yep. I have inlaws here for 2 WEEKS.
MIL just talks non stop and often over the top of others.
I now just carry on talking a bit louder to whoever I was talking to.
I get really stressed out as mil always interferes/helps/takes-over whatever I'm doing. If I give her a job to do to help out she mucks it up and usually breaks something in the process.

RiotAndAlarum · 26/12/2019 18:12

"Sorry, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?"

I am so going to use this on my DS...

Drum2018 · 26/12/2019 18:19

I think she's been doing it for so long (without anyone pointing it out to her) that it's just normal to her.

So be the one who points it out to her. So what if it causes a bit of conflict. Won't you be delighted if you don't have to see them as often? Seriously, don't visit them. If Dh invites them over organise an evening out or a coffee with a friend.

HarrietThePi · 26/12/2019 18:26

My dp's family all interupt and talk over each other. It seems to be that the only way to get a word in is to shout the loudest. I find it very tiring and tend to clam up and not really bother trying to talk. I stick to basic yes and no's and appropriate noises. They think I am quiet.. I am quiet, as in I am not a very shouty person, but I'm not half as quiet as they think I am. I don't really have the energy for every conversation to be a sort of competitive shouting contest. I'm used to giving others space to speak and being given the same. Unfortunately my DP is the same, though I understand why he is the way he is it doesn't make it any the less irritating. With him I usually point out that he has interrupted me. He's not as bad as they are, but we do argue about it fairly often.

PepsiLola · 26/12/2019 18:34

I would be as rude as she is "please don't interrupt me"
"Excuse me I was speaking"
"Can I finish?"

Repeat everytime!

PepsiLola · 26/12/2019 18:36

My DH family are like this but he's aware of it, and he will go "what were you saying Pepsi"
"One sec mum Pepsi is speaking"

I think it annoys him more than me

NoSauce · 26/12/2019 18:40

Why is it that spending time with in-laws turns grown women incapable of standing up for themselves?

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