To think Mumsnet is absolutely miserable this Christmas

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Nearly every thread I'm popping on today is a moan. Shit gifts, shit husbands, house is a mess, why can't retail workers not work Christmas time, glad it's all over, let's rip christmas decorations down for another year.

I've come on here and its left me feeling deflated!

Did anyone have a good Christmas???

Nope I think it's normal to come on here for support and no time more tricky than now. I found it quite reassuring yesterday after everyone had buggered off to bed early to read about the christmases that didn't go according to plan...

I agree OP, I can't remember seeing so many selfish, unpleasant, entitled posts in previous years. Makes me sad that all these people are totally missing the whole point of the holiday season and are only bothered about grasping for gifts that they consider good enough.

We had a lovely family Christmas, spending time together, enjoying each other's company, pitching in to cook our Christmas dinner and exchanging gifts that are meaningful and special to us.

I did , yes OP

Quiet one , just me and youngest DS (16) but a good one . First since DD died in May but I got through it .

Merry Christmas (as it is still the Season) .

I agree that the people enjoying their Christmas are probably too busy to be on Mumsnet complaining. I had a lovely Christmas, despite being apart from my immediate family and working in retail . Lovely time & still enjoying today as well. And not rushing to open my presents still got 4 under the tree.

So sorry @WhentheRabbotsWentWild. Quite honestly if you managed a good Christmas, there’s no excuse for all the whingers. 💐

Ours was quiet but lovely. I cooked a nice dinner, we ate it, everyone enjoyed it. No drama, just peace and tranquillity.

Well YANBU, but same as reviews - people are more likely to complain when they are unhappy than to rave when they are content. It does make me value what I have even though my life isn't all plain sailing though 😆

I had the best and laziest Christmas ever, lots of sleeping, no stress, no visitors, late breakfast followed by late dinner, messy house, happy kids, thoughtful dh. Perfection. Today is being spent lying on the sofa grazing and watching crap tv whilst dh and dd play computer games together. I might make bubble and squeak for dinner and he'll wash up. Life is good.
Seasons greetings to all and don't sweat the small stuff.
(This stress free Christmas has been brought to us by my family living either on the other side of the world or on a different off shore party if the UK and his living 400 miles away and us only having ourselves to please. It's the future )

I still have all the Christmas decorations and the tree.

Maybe I ought to rip everything down.

I started a thread the other day asking if anyone has had one or all perfect (in their eyes anyway) Christmasses and it seems many of us have had trouble free days and no fisticuffs or fall outs with relatives etc.

My own was nice. Not a rip roaring time but very peaceful with nice folk and a labrador. I do understand how for many though they are praying for when it is all over. Far too stressful a time for some families and totally avoidable but who would dare?

Mumsnet is always miserable at Christmas, but the amount of nasty, snide and ridiculing posters is worse this year. They must have incredibly sad lives to sit on here on Christmas day, bleating about how terrible people are for wearing matching PJs or for posting pictures of their presents under the tree.

We had a nice Christmas thanks, OP. Hope you did too. I've had some truly terrible, tragic Christmases, so being poorly this year didn't spoil things.

Yes we had a lovely day enjoying our 18 day old granddaughter...we are all so in love 💕 and am really enjoying today chilling and eating rubbish food.

Tbf I think it's really really helpful to have a space to moan when you wouldn't in real life and realise that not everyone is having a perfect Christmas. I wish my Dad would get on MN and realise he's not the only one feeling sad and lonely at Xmas

Yeah it's been good apart from my teenagers bad behaviour which is pushing me to the absolute limit

It's always like that though. In fact I think I've seen fewer "my dh/IL/someone else got me thoughtless rubbish while I thought immensely and spent huge amounts" type posts than other years.
It's as predictable at Mothering Sunday complaints.

But people aren't going to stop their lovely time with the family to post "perfect family time, lovely lunch, everyone chipped in and got fantastic presents. Having a wonderful time." on MN. That's what Facebook is for

It's a bit like Dr Google always sounding negative. No one ever wrote a blog about their medical issue that turned out to be nothing, which it is 99.9% of the time. However you get plenty of articles about medical issues which could have been nothing turning out to be a rare incurable serious condition.

There does seem to be a lot of moaning and drama on here.
I had a brilliant Christmas.

Most things weren't perfect, but what is. My turkey literally fell to pieces when I tried to pick it up to move it out of the roasting tray, tasted good tho so wtf. Most people liked most presents. DD only had one major meltdown. My uncle only offended everyone 2 or 3 times.

And my DD, who is 21yo, asd, was previously tube fed and has various major food issues ate a normal Christmas dinner for the first time in her life which just elevated it to the best Christmas ever

I had a much nicer Christmas than I’d been expecting so I’m happy and had a lovely day.

Lovely thank you. Still lovely. Christmas until New Years in this house. New moon and solar moon eclipse this morning too. Time to take out the trash and plan for better things ahead.

I had the best day yesterday - its the first Christmas since my DP told me she was transgender, so watching her open girly presents that she genuinely liked was the best ❤
Dd (10) was amazing all day, she just went with the flow, and built lego. She offered to help lay out the buffet, and helped tidy up after each meal.
I was the most relaxed and content I had been in months.
Today we did some accidental shopping, we went for a costa and I ended up with a new coat from joules, and some No.7 makeup from boots.
I dont want Christmas to end.

The 3 of us had a brilliant time - totally relaxed, lots of movies and absolutely no pressure.

Christmas can be a truly awful time for anyone who’s really going through it, it really accentuates loneliness and feelings of failure, and it’s great that mumsnet is here to support people who are having a difficult time. But the endless posts about grown adults being disappointed with their presents, or people creating hell for themselves by cooking three roasts rather than just one, or martyring away in silence and not asking for help etc etc, that become very wearing.

We had a wonderful day. No rushing around, great food shared with my my husband, son and parents & brother at 4pm so we had the morning without touching the kitchen, visited by the in-laws. After years of rushing around we now don’t leave the house. Anyone can come to us and be welcomed but we refuse to do the rounds. My son was such a good boy all day (he’s only 23 months so could have been too much for him) and we felt really lucky. All three of the kids slept like logs after their dinners (two canine, one human) and DS2 held off arriving (currently 39 1/2 weeks)

Today was started with a nice long dog walk, I’m now in pjs eating chocolates and plan on not moving!

YANBU at all. It's been really awful on Mumsnet this year. I need a bigger bingo card - I've had to add lots of new stuff to it this year.

We have had a lovely time! We don’t host or visit we have Christmas just the four of us and DH and I don’t buy each other gifts so there are nt really any sources of drama or conflict here. Our tree will be up until just before going back to work and school on 6th and until then we will be doing what we want when we want! I think so much on here is just unnecessary drama, just say no if you don’t want to go somewhere or do something! And a lot of adults acting like spoilt brats as well, be grateful for your presents!

I don’t know if YABU but what I do know is I was holding out for another scented candle Whodunnit/ mystery bauble scary story. Christmas ruined!

I had a "pleasant" time, and hosted (as usual!!!!) the only fly in the ointment was that DS1 and DDIL wouldn't come as they can't emotionally cope with anything "family related" at the moment and so they stayed home.
I found it hard making an effort to try and have a nice family time, even though the much longed for grandson wasn't there.

Yes, I had a lovely day with my lovely family. Received some thoughtful and generous gifts and ate a delicious meal.

The absolute highlight for me was the most amazingly thoughtful home-made gift from my teenage dd that she had spent many hours putting together. A true labour of love for which I am most grateful.

I think the people who are having a lovely time simply don't feel the need to write about it. Or else they don't want to boast and make others feel crap by comparison.