To be upset?

[Jellybeansincognito]

After losing my dad several weeks ago, being poorly and really struggling emotionally. I tried to pull myself together yesterday.

I thought I did pretty well- I tried to enjoy my food and have a drink.

My husband has this morning told me that I have ruined Christmas because I am miserable.

Aibu to think this is an absolutely disgusting thing to say?

You are married and on the mortgage of the house so you don’t have nothing. You are entitled to a substantial amount of whatever the house is worth.

Your first step should be to speak to a solicitor/Women’s Aid. You may have to be persistent with Women’s Aid because they are busy and often don’t answer. But don’t give up. There’s a life for you: either alone or with a better partner who values and cherishes you. Either would be infinitely better than this.

I am so sorry that he has been so utterly vile and unsupportive. The good thing is that you have seen the light.

You will absolutely get help from Women's Aid. You need to also get yourself to a solicitor asap. If you can get one who gives a free initial session then do so and get as much info as you can from them.

You are entitled to help and you are entitled to (on a basic level, without more information) half of the marital assets.
You are not alone.
I think making a plan will help you stay sane when it gets really shitty. 2020 will be your year and you will get your freedom. Much love to you OP.

Honest to god I'd be writing out his "suicide" note and practicing my 911 call had my husband said that to me. I'm not kidding in the least

He's an absolute bustard and I'm very sorry for your loss. 💐

He sounds cruel and callous. If he has history of this I'd be making an appointment with a good lawyer and planning to give myself a happy new year by leaving him.