To fall out with my Ds?

[GirlOnIt]

He's constantly hitting, nipping and biting me! He especially likes to go for my face and when I say no or put him down he starts screaming, which sets his baby sister off screaming too.

Ok, I'll admit I would be completely unreasonable because he's only 14 months. But what can I do to stop him and someone please reassure me he doesn't actually hate me. He doesn't do it to anyone else, only me.

Not a very festive post either so apologies. But it's taken twenty minutes to give him his bed time feed and in that time, he's bitten me twice, nipped my face and pulled my hair.

He doesn't hate you, he's only 14mths!

When mine went through this, I just said ouch very loudly and put him down. Make sure though you are spending some one to one time with him, playing with him. Is the baby sister younger?

Take him off your nipple with a firm No.

Hold his hands in yours with a firm No.

You don't have to put him down, but thwart him every time.

He will learn.

I know he doesn't hate me really @ShawshanksRedemption. Although it feels like it.

I've tried saying ouch and he laughs, tried looking sad and he laughs. Also tried the stopping him but not reacting @Nanny0gg. He either screams when I hold his hands or stops and then the second I let go, he starts again.
Yes Dd is younger and I guess it's probably her arrival that's caused it. But she's very chilled so he does get a lot of 1-1 time still

He's gently with his sister, which is of course good. But makes me think he has some understanding that he's hurting me and knows not to.

I know it's really hard but it's just a phase and he'll grow out of it. He doesn't mean it!

I know he doesn't really @Briz. It's hard though, it's only me he dyes it to. And eggs I want be a nice relaxed bedtime feed, ends up with me feeling like I've been beaten up.

Stop feeding him then… it’s unnecessary at this age! Honestly, whatever happened to common sense?

It's not just while he's feeding he does it @hellcarryingahandbag. But in regards to that, he breastfeeds once before bed and once first thing in the morning, he has no other comforter, dummy, bottle, blanket etc. Never wakes for it and doesn't bother through the day at all.

Don't know what was going on with the spelling mistakes in my last post. Does nog dyes and I'm not sure what eggs was supposed to be.

He isn't biting while I feed him either. He bit my shoulder, when I was drying him after his bath.,

Catch his hands and stroke your face with them - gentle hands, hands are not for hitting, repeat every single time he tries. Twiddle beads or a big scarf for coverage when feeding. Divert attention and energy when he does it when you're not feeding. It'll pass, promise, it's just a phase

Put him straight down on the floor look stern and say firmly “ouch! No biting! We don’t bite!”

He is most comfortable with you which is why is is exploring more. Def not choosing you to be mean or hurtful.

Say no as suggested and it will pass. You are everything to him, keep reminding yourself that.

He responds to that with his sister @richteasandcheese. Just doesn't seem to work with me.

I know @LL83 and I know it's not actually a bad thing. It shows he's got a good attachment to me and he feels safe and secure. But it just seems relentless and when I've hardly slept and I've got a million other things to do, but just want a cuddle with my boy and instead I get my face nipped and my hair pulled.
He hurts too, which seems ridiculous because he's 14 months. But he's so strong and gets such a tight grip.

@hellcarryingahandbag recommended length of feeding is two years.

Anyway yes it's an annoying phase but it will pass! Your child is just very comfy with you and trying out different new things and sussing out what reactions will be. Everything is brand new to them and all attention is good as far as they are concerned

I feel you pain, my daughter used to pull my hair. All the time. Even if it was tied back she'd find a way. Honestly I remember just crying once because it felt like I couldn't go anywhere near her... Still she's 11 now and has stopped - pretty sure she'd like to start again now as she seems to be hitting the sulky teens already 😁

I think a good firm “no!” and putting him down every time he does it. Coupled with lots of positive attention when you catch him being gentle / good.

@GirlOnIt well slap him on the back of the legs lightly then!

My 4 year old went through this phase, it's bloody annoying and it hurts! He grew out of it, seemed to take forever but looking back now I can barely remember it.

Hang in there. Some day soon you'll hug him and he'll just hug you back

Yes, I'm most definitely not going to
slap my 14 month old baby @hellcarryingahandbag. No matter how lightly.

Is he teething? That may be why he's biting.

He does give lovely cuddles too @Summercamping. He goes "aww" cuddles, but just sometimes bites or nips at the same time. It wouldn't be so bad if he shared the love and got his daddy too, he deserves the odd slap.

I would stop whatever is going on and put him down immediately with a sharp ‘no that hurts me. Stop it’.

It might still take time but he will stop, I promise.

Oh this age is a joy!

It will almost certainly stop when his speech kicks up....its a form of communication and “ooh this gets a good response!” Or “what happens if I”

My son did it and all the consistent calm “no thank you” “kind hands please” didn’t get me far at all!

I held his arm up to his mouth one day and pressed it to his upper teeth and said “look! Teeth hurt! Biting hurts! Teeth are for eating!”

It did seem to get through a bit.

I work in a baby room and we try to intercept with a teething toy, “these are for biting, not friends” and it’s perfectly okay to block his hits or nips with a raised palm and a “ah ah. No thank you” you can model what boundaries look like and teach him that it’s not okay to let people hurt you, it’s a really valuable lesson in self respect, so don’t feel bad!

I promise, it gets outgrown soon.

My baby same age and he is sweet and sour too! Occasional bites etc. We shout ow very loudly which startles him and then say that hurt and then get him to give you a cuddle. I think it’s just a stage they are going through

When you put him down face him away from you turn your back on him it's a clear NO sign and a sign of disapproval