To fall out with my Ds?

[GirlOnIt]

He's constantly hitting, nipping and biting me! He especially likes to go for my face and when I say no or put him down he starts screaming, which sets his baby sister off screaming too.

Ok, I'll admit I would be completely unreasonable because he's only 14 months. But what can I do to stop him and someone please reassure me he doesn't actually hate me. He doesn't do it to anyone else, only me.

Not a very festive post either so apologies. But it's taken twenty minutes to give him his bed time feed and in that time, he's bitten me twice, nipped my face and pulled my hair.

Thank you @Thehop. I've been trying to distract him and like I said he gets the being gentle with his sister. I guess it's just something I'll have to keep going with.

@GirlOnIt why not?

Honestly @hellcarryingahandbag, I think you're being a bit goady. First the breastfeeding and now smacking.
This isn't a yo smack or not to smack debate and so all I'm saying on the matter is that I will not be smacking my 14 month old.

Merry Christmas

My son did this from about 18 months till 2.5 years. Lots of hitting, biting, kicking, pulling off my glasses and throwing them across the room, it used to drive me nuts. I used to take it really personally as well as it was mostly to me, a bit to dh, but at nursery he was absolutely fine. He used to find it really funny especially if I pulled a sad face or told him off. The only thing that worked for me was when say he would hit I'd say 'no ds gentle'. Then take his hand anf get him to stroke me gently. He's now 3 and is constantly patting, stroking, cudling me so I guess the message got through. Don't take it personally, it's hard at the time but it's really not because he is trying to hurt you, they just have no sense of empathy at this age and are responding to the reaction they get.

Could he be teething? my little used to bite when he had a few teeth all come through together.
Regarding the hitting etc. I think that's a stage most toddlers go through when they're learning to communicate and cause and effect. We just reminded ours about gentle hands and then distracted with tiggling him. But as a pp says its a phase and will pass
It's hard not to take it personally but it will be because you're his rock and safe point.

Oh and @GirlOnIt you are absolutely right not to react with a smack or bite back. You can’t teach no hitting by hitting.

And massive well done on breastfeeding still. It’s hugely beneficial for toddlers and mums to keep going into toddlerhood and beyond, the WHO recommends natural weaning wherever possible.

You’re doing a great job

You’re doing a great job! It’s easy to say it’s a phase and he’s just testing/learning but he is and it won’t last forever. Doesn’t stop you wishing it would end though! Be consistent, say the same thing over and over. Give him to DP and walk away if you need to.

Nip him back! I did this with my DD when she started this and she never nipped me again. It hurt, because I gave a proper nip. She nipped my breast so hard I was left with a lump for a couple of weeks. you need to get this under control now, because it will only get worse if you don't.

Yes, I'm most definitely not going to be hitting, nipping or biting my baby!

I was a bit emotional last night, as I'd hoped for a lovely Christmas Eve bedtime and he just wouldn't stop. Thinking about it, he was probably a bit over tired and could sense something different was happening and that will have made him worse. No hits, bites or nips so far this morning, although he is currently laid on his dad kissing his face and has been preoccupied playing with wrapping paper for the last hour.

Will continue saying no, stopping him and encouraging him to be gentle instead. And hope this phase passes soon.