To be pisses off at OH regardless of it being Christmas.

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we did our Christmas food shop yesterday and while we was there I asked OH if there was anything he fancied for dinner on Christmas Eve. He insisted we didn’t buy anything as we usually get a take away, I’m happy with this as it’s sort of become a bit of a tradition.

Anyway, he hasn’t done any of his Christmas shopping so rushed it today to buy everyone’s presents, including mine that he’s stressed he’s kept the receipts for as he wasn’t sure what to get me, which feels already like he hasn’t put much thought into it.

He’s come home and I’ve asked him what he wants to do for dinner for him to tell me he’s not long had McDonald’s and wasn’t hungry now.

It’s probably hormones but I haven’t eaten since lunchtime as we usually stuff ourselves Christmas Eve with lovely Christmas food and now I don’t have anything here except the stuff for Christmas dinner tomorrow. We haven’t brought our usual weekly shop as we’re so uncertain on when baby’s coming that we’ve been nipping you the shops to get meat and veg taking each day as it comes rather than planning meals ahead.

AIBU that I’m on the verge of tears that my parents are at home with my sister having take away and my brother and his wife are at home having lovely cheeses and nibbles and I’m having a packet of crisps on Christmas Eve. I think I’m mostly upset because it’s always been the way of having something nice tonight and he knows himself that when he does eat he stuffs himself so that he won’t be hungry so why didn’t he have lunch earlier or just have something small so we could still eat together.

Shiteiest Christmas Eve so far

Order your own takeaway and put your feet up.

Did he know you didn’t have any food in at all?

Can he go get you a takeout? Just because he's eaten, doesn't mean that you don't get/need to eat! How selfish of him.

It's not too late to order a takeaway. Just go and do it!!

I don't understand why you can't get a takeaway? Don't be a martyr just to make a point!

Dont be a martyr and have crisps jusy order a takeaway

Order your takeaway Op.

Just order the take away! Don’t sit sulking in to a packet of crisps!

That’s totally reasonable for me to get my own take away so I suppose I’m just being a bit hormonal, but it’s not the same having a take away by myself and that feels more lonely than not eating at all

Yes he knew we don’t have any good here because I asked this morning if he would prefer me to cook a nice steak instead of take away but he said he would be happy to get take away as I’d set the table ready for tomorrow and would be easier to grab and clean up.

I’m going to have to send him to the shop as I can’t not eat, this baby will be kicking me harder in the ribs if I starve her too!

I don't understand why you can't get a takeaway?

Me neither. There is so much I don't get about this, including why you can't have food in because baby's coming.

Order a take away? Also buy freezable things that’ll last way beyond babies due date. You’ll be more glad there’s food to go home to than trying to shop immediately after leaving the hospital.

it’s not the same having a take away by myself and that feels more lonely than not eating at all sad

Here, have a tiny violin 🎻

I'm sure if you get a takeaway he'll have some so you won't be eating alone :)

I voted YABU purely because you can get your own takeaway. And likely when you start ordering he'll decide he wants some. I never turn down a takeaway even if I'm not that hungry.

@Havaina just because we usually do a weekly shop but I’m needing a c section so we’re going to be in hospital for a Couple days at lest and don’t want to waste or let anything go off. So we’ve just been popping to the shop each day/evening when we know we’re going to be at home and not up the hospital. Otherwise we would usually have a pretty good stock of food in.

I’m not saying I can’t have a take away, I’m just saying that we have done every other year and agreed to do it so that’s what I was expecting when he got home. I’m just a little upset that he obviously hasn’t remembered or thought about me when he had McDonald’s.

Just order takeaway. It will only be sad and lonely if you frame it that way. I imagine if you get on JustEat he'll find a bit of room for something.

Honestly I had a c section. Get some food in

I totally get why you're upset. But don't add needlessly hangry to the upset and the hurt, you'll make yourself even more miserable. Send him out to get you the takeout you normally don't have, because it's too expensive. I hope it's raining. . .

Ok makes sense about not having too much food in then, OP.

I totally get this and would be like this as well - you’ve been looking forward to it and it isn’t the same doing treat things on your own! But order the takeaway anyway as you’ll be more miserable if you don’t.

You are being ridiculous, stop being a PA martyr and get over yourself.

@vivacian I wish we had a Justeat. We live in the sticks but whenever I hear about it it sounds like such a good thing to have available!

Get a takeaway and sit in the lounge in front of a film or something with your oh, won't feel lonely then. What's done is done, o point spoiling your Christmas eve night

Get a take away..

.. and buy food in. Not doing a shop at all on the premise of having the baby sounds silly at best.

Think yourself lucky mine has got manflu and has barely uttered a word all day

I get why you're a bit peeved, but don't sit there eating a bag of crisps with tears running down your face op, just order a curry and get on with it