We are on route to my sister’s house for Christmas. It’s a 7 hour drive with a toddler. We had wanted to stay at home to have a little family Christmas for the first time and not needing to travel. But it was important for my parents to see our son, as they haven’t seen him much due to the distance and my dad’s poor health (he had a stroke about a year ago).
My mum is v manipulative and suddenly a month ago said she had severe osteoarthritis, which meant she was crawling up the stairs. She’s been using a stick for a little while, but to be as bad as she’s saying is quite a sudden onset. Over the years she has always used her health as an excuse to get out of things and get attention, when there clearly wasn’t much wrong. I genuinely just do not believe she is that bad on the back of growing up with her manipulation. She now has my dad looking after her....he’s the one that needs looking after. She won’t accept any help. My sister had social services visit because the house wasn’t fit for my dad in his health condition, and she shunned them away. She has lots of money in savings, but will not spend it to improve the house for my dad (despite the fact she NEVER works and never kept the house growing up. She wouldn’t even cook for us, I remember clearly looking forward to going to my nans house to get a nutritious meal).
Anyway. I just heard her in the background make a sarcastic comment about me talking to her. We are in the car on this long journey with a toddler for them, otherwise they wouldn’t see him. We’ve done this journey 4 times this year. Once when he was 8 weeks old.
I feel so resentful to her. I had no help when my son was born despite having a c-section. I know this is bad to say, but I actually dislike her. I want my dad to spend time with his only grandson, but she makes it so tense. I know I should try and be sympathetic to her, but I just don’t trust her. She said she was having a hip replacement in January, as I had said that if it’s that bad, she should be getting one. But she couldn’t give me a date, or show the letter. Surely you’d have a letter by now if you’re lined up for such surgery?