I'm thinking in laws are wrong and DH should stay home?

[vommanchristmas]

DH has just come down with the stomach bug that's been going around. Throwing up, diarrhoea and fever etc. He's in bed acting like he's the first person ever to be sick .--

Father in law just popped over to give ds a loaf of banana bread and see how dh was. I told him that other people that have had this gave said it's about a 10 hour thing so he should be ok by tonight.

Fil said "ok well we'll see you tomorrow morning!" It's a family tradition that another family member has a huge Christmas Eve brunch. There's usually between 15-40 people depending on the year.

I was surprised and said 'oh even if he's better I don't think we'll be going, he'll still be contagious.'

Fil told me I'm being ridiculous and if people are going to get it they'll get it. I think he thought I was trying to get out of going. (I'm not I was actually really looking forward to it.)

I said "well it's up to dh but I'll be advising him not to go, I don't want to be the family that makes the entire town (that hasn't had it yet) sick for Christmas."

Apparently I'm being unkind to dh it's not fair for him to miss out.

If I was sick today there's no way I'd go and probably infect everyone. Am I being a bit ott as fil says? If so I won't suggest to dh that he doesn't go.

Sounds like a bad dose of man flu.
Did it coincide with presents needing to be wrapped? I understand that that's a common cause.

Sorry but he’s a grown man, not a child. It’s up to him. There’s no such thing as a “48 hour rule” in anybody’s private life. Personally I wouldn’t go, but it’s really not for you to decide.

He's not going to take any notice of OP's "advice" anyway.

Nothing to do with avoiding wrapping presents as I do all that anyway. And not hung over, we didn't drink yesterday.

Yanbu. I was sick on Friday morning and only left the house today. Still felt unwell Saturday and Sunday. My appetite is also just returning to normal.

I was only going to advise him, not strap him to the bed.

Ds and I had proper flu last year over Christmas, it was bloody miserable. And I was cursing the friend that visited while her kids were still sick and gave it to us.

I was only going to advise him, not strap him to the bed. hmm

Well, he’s declined the advice so...

Hide all his shoes.

Brilliant advice.

He's being v. selfish and I'd be surprised if someone else doesn't catch it. At the very least, he shouldn't shake hands or hug anyone at the party. I'd be really angry if my DH did this.

I’m having chemotherapy. I’d be furious if someone sick came to my home. In fact. I’d never speak to them again

They could kill me.

OK, it sounds more like he ate something dodgy than that he has a virus. People tend to be incredibly precious about germs these days (despite the fact that a lot of contagious things are most contagious before the symptoms actually show, so are spread by people who don't know they are ill/infectious). If he's been well enough to go to work, then he is well enough to go to this party. Just remind him to wash his hands regularly.

YANBU. A family member came to a pre christmas family get together ill. My baby was ill in hospital over christmas that year.

Curry that had been reheated a few times? Sounds like that's the culprit. It'll have been teeming with bacteria.

My friend has Addison’s disease. It’s really rare. But sickness bugs kill 80% of people with Addison’s

That and immunosuppressant people are the ones who could die.

Well full speed ahead with his to do list then if he is feeling fine.
Hasn't got a list?
Make one.
A long one.
Btw are you invited to the BB??

People always put any sickness bug down to norovirus. Sometimes it is and sometimes it isnt. If he has eaten a curry that has been reheated a few times that is very likely why he has been sick. In which case if he feels well enough then no reason not to go.

Thing is, if you know that you are immunosuppressed or vulnerable, it's your job to inform people, to stay away from large crowded gatherings (where, you know, people who are infectious-but-don't-know-yet are likely to be) and to refuse visitors. It isn't everyone else's problem. And quite a few health issues in DC seem to have something to do with general germ phobias which involve anti-bacterial sprays all over the place and too much sterilising of everything so a kid's immune system doesn't get the chance to develop properly.

He did have curry last night that had been reheated a few times

Er, you do know this is unsafe don't you? Nobody has a bug, he's just eaten something very very dodgy.

Oh he's got a big old list now.

Wow!

So he’s going to work now, then a party tomorrow.

And potentially ruining Christmas for all those he comes in contact with.

If he ate the curry last night, I suspect the illness would have been faster if due to bacterial toxins. If a bacterial infection, I wouldn’t expect him to recover so quickly.

There’s not much you can do. It’s obvious where he’s picked up his blasé habits from. Some people are grim.

I'm invited to the party brunch yes.

Apparently he didn't have diarrhoea, just vomited once. I don't know if he's lying or if he was being a massive fucking baby and exaggerating like he often is when he's ill.

He works alone in the middle of the woods. He won't come in to contact with anyone.

Is he The Gruffalo??

“being a massive fucking baby and exaggerating like he often is when he's ill.”

LTB!!!

@Winterdaysarehere at the moment I'd say he's the Twatalow.

Well if it is a bug, rather than food poisoning, I hope he shits himself on the way to his parents house. What he’s doing is bloody irresponsible.