I got married a couple of years ago, been together about 10 years. Second marriage for us both.
I have a will, from when I was divorced, but now that is obviously out of date.
I have 2 children, so does he. All adults. No grandchildren on either side yet.
I have said we need to make wills - there is a remote possibility that we could both die together, in a crash for example, and then it all gets complex and his children could get nothing!
If a married couple die at same time, and it cannot be proved who actually died first, it is assumed the oldest (him) died first. Thus all assets pass to spouse (me). But if I am dead too, then all assets pass to MY children. His would not inherit anything.
Another scenario - I die, without a will. Everything goes to him. He 'says' he will ensure my children get my assets when he dies. But if he doesn't make a will, there is nothing in law to say they get it, when he eventually dies, his 2 would inherit all.
We need to make wills, so that it is all written properly and there is no doubt where the assets should be split.
But he is up in arms about it! Says I do not trust him, that he would make sure my kids would inherit (but how could they if there is no will?)
I cannot understand how he won't do this?
I cannot just make one on my own, as we own joint property, we both have to do it, but he won't even discuss it.
How do I make him see that this is so important?