Mother nightmare

[christmasletdown56]

My mum has decided not to come to meal with my friends who dutifully invited her along as she doesn't work and her friends aren't great, now she saying she not coming, I'm paying no excuses?

But can afford to go bingo with said friends who I not very keen on! Eg one is just out of prison for something awful! And going to friends Boxing Day? So I left alone Christmas Eve evening and Boxing Day? Her friends are obviously more important!

Looked at finances she is bloody skint, doesn't help pet insurance is £650 month

Her income £1800 month includes lodger of £400.00

She going away to Devonin September and her house needs a lot of work, keeps saying it be last year then I save up to do stuff - total lies??!

AIBU to be cross

I think you are too involved in her life choices. Do you live together? Why is the pet insurance so expensive?

Does she own a small zoo? You both sound as mad as a bag of snakes so I cannot decide if YABU or YANBU.

She obviously prefers the company of her own friends to the company of your friends. She can be friends with whoever she pleases. Why do her finances concern you? Do you live with her?

I don’t think my mum would want to go to a meal with me and my friends. It sounds a bit patronising.

So she’s spending time with her friends Christmas Eve and Boxing Day, you don’t like them and won’t be spending time with them? And you’re spending time with your friends Christmas Day and she doesn’t want to spend time with them?

I’m a bit confused about the house stuff. Are you saying that you’re paying for repairs because she’s claiming to be skint, then she’s spending her money on other things?

You sound like you have an unhealthy enmeshed kind of dynamic. Take a step back.

£650 a month! I wouldn't pay that for health insurance for myself!
But go out with your own friends and leave your mum to her BIngo.

Blimey has she got Dick Whittington's moggy modelled in gold leaf as pet insurance at £650 p.m is quite ridiculous

I wouldn't want to go to a meal if I was 'dutifully invited'. It doesn't sound much fun...

my friends who dutifully invited her along
Not surprised she doesn’t want to go.

pet insurance is £650 month
Have you missed a decimal point?

can afford to go bingo with said friends who I not very keen on
She’s an adult, she can choose her own friends. You don’t have to like them.

I left alone Christmas Eve evening and Boxing Day? Her friends are obviously more important!
So you are cross she isn’t spending all her time with you? Do you live with her or are you visiting? YANBU to be a bit upset you are going to be alone but YABU about the rest of her life choices.

Pet insurance is nonsense, I have too level cover for large dog which is under £50

Top level that should say.

Your too invested in her finances. Nowt to do with you.
But yes yanbu to be upset she isn't coming for Xmas meal.

Although spending Xmas with YOUR friends might have put her off. What's wrong with just the two of you?

You do realise she's an adult, don't you? You sound far too involved in her life choices.

No way is her pet insurance that high

She was invited by my friend! As she has her family there too, trying to get her to mingle with others!

Pet insurance cat 25 - - 300
Husky 7 but lots wrong - 250
Pedigree pug 3 - 35

Shared pets! Instead of paying for some of the issues - she claims everything even food on insurance 1 ridiculous

My pet insurance is less than 20 pound a month? For good cover as well.

My insurance for two cats is £75 a month. (Had huge claims)

I seen the more than letters it's £650 month

Meal with friends is tonight! And they invited her for company as they enjoy her company and my friends

I agree with PP you sound very over invested in your mothers life.

Take a step back and focus on your own friends and your own life rather than stressing about what she does and doesn't do.

Does she have 25 cats or is it 25 years old?

Is Bingo open on Boxing Day?