Ex giving DC this pile of trash.

[Notagainnnn]

NC. Ex hasn't seen our kids in a very long time. DV them and me.
Court order says I have to give them his letters, cards and gifts.
So I did. Kids don't want these items anyway because of who sent them. But we open them to donate accordingly.

DC 12 gets a makeup bag, a handbag from Primark, a coffee set, short PJs, a very ugly childish sweater, a t-shirt with apple in French and another that would look nice if she was 3.

DC 10 gets two pairs of plain tracksuit bottoms from Tesco and a tshirt. Also gets a lynx set that is dog-eared.

DC 8 gets a lynx set that is that old the lynx branding has rubbed off completely and battered!! That is all.

One selection box between them that has been resealed with sticky tape and one galaxy bar that has obviously been hanging around as its in lots of pieces.

Items covered in dog hair.

Why bother? Why not send a card with an update in if they mean sod all? No letters ever come or cards.

Kids don't care, they are used to it by now, and are over it, but aibu to think you just don't fucking do that?

Next Christmas it's definitely time to do a sweepstake in what shite he's sent then!

Humour is probably the best way along with being open at how sad it lack of genuine concern and love is and it's him not them

If they have no expectation or desire to receive anything from him, I would laugh with them.

Wrap them back up and let them donate to a shelter. Can you afford to then take them for a lovely festive meal/treat to celebrate their good deed?

Stop looking at their Facebook. It just adds insult. They're pricks. You don't need to keep checking social media to confirm that.

Maybe he just doesn't know what kind of stuff to get kids that age?

Its so he can say to others how he sent loads of gifts. He doesnt have to specify it was a pile of crap.

@Mlou32 they have kids. Older and younger.
And it isn't hard to either get a gift card or take a trip to Smyth's or type into Amazon gifts for 8 yr old boy. He was a child once.

Kids have been out for the day with their uncle and auntie (my family his don't bother "if he can't see them we refuse to") and they've had a great day. We plan to fit in lots and have a few treats. They are so excited for Xmas, that this hasn't made any impact. Thank you for the lovely input. It's good to know I'm not being a snob.