What happens on your birthday?

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My birthday is Christmas Eve.
I've conditioned myself to think that cards, maybe a present, done, then onto Christmas. This is the way it's always been, despite my lovely parents, partner and children trying.

I don't want an extravaganza or even a party. More than 10 minutes would be nice though. Actually family remembering a text (not even a card) would be nice.

This is more of a poor me than anything to be fair. I think I've turned it in to a non event from years of non celebration.

So my aibu is:

Do you celebrate more than 10 mins = not unreasonable

Naa get on with Christmas = I'm unreasonable

Light hearted by the WAY.

Today’s my birthday. It’s close to Christmas so I feel your pain. It’s hard to get people together if you want a night out, but on the flip-side it’s basically a week of people giving you gifts!

I’m lucky though, my family do remember and make a fuss so I definitely feel the love.

At the end of the day, birthdays as adults aren’t really bigs things anyway. Im happy that people remember and take time out of their day to wish me well- even if it’s the much-maligned “and happy birthday” at the end of a Christmas card.

I do agree Chunky. As an adult it's fine I'd rather no fuss. A text would be nice though from family.
My close ones are lovely. I do think I've got to the stage of brushing my birthday off as people have more important things on.
I wonder if it would be the same at any other time of year though?

And Happy birthday, I hope you had a fab day

Im also a Christmas Eve birthday. I find my immediate family do alright, but friends: I don’t hear from them on the day as everyone is getting ready for the next day.

I also feel like I should move things on quickly on my birthday so others can focus on Christmas.
At least our birthday isn’t Christmas Day, I know someone who is

Mines 10 days before Christmas and this year I made the momentous decision that from now on I shall be like the queen and have two birthdays.

I shall have my official birthday with gifts etc in December, then a second exactly six months later in June. This means I can go out for a birthday meal without being overwhelmed with office parties, bonus is the weather will be nicer

Happy birthday, @ChunkyKnit 🎁❤️

Friend of mine has a Christmas Eve birthday. She tends to party the weekend before, but it also means she's got a cast iron excuse to get out of family Eve things and go out with her friends! Which she usually does.

Mine is in Spring. Its an either very small or actual non event.

Agreed Prosecco, it could be worse.
Ah yes growing up I had 2 birthdays. One with my late sister. She always had a gift also on my proper birthday

Mine is tomorrow. My dh tries to make a big deal for it, but I've given up after years of no one having money or time to celebrate with me as it's so close to Christmas.

Happy birthday to everyone who has a birthday around Christmas time

@OhioOhioOhio

My ex had the same issue.

I just hear of birthday celebrations and think oh, mine isn't like that..
To be fair like I said I don't want a huge celebration. Its nice to hear that others don't go all out.

It depends what day of the week it lands and who has work/school/college or whatever. Usually open presents and crack on with the day. Sometimes DH and I are off and the kids are not so we might go for lunch. Nothing major.

ExDP birthday is on Christmas eve. Most of his family remembered but most of mine didn't which was really embarrassing for me. I did make a a huge fuss of his birthday but when the kids were old enough to understand Christmas it was back to being second to Christmas again which was really sad.

Well usually it’s a bun fight between my mum, dad or sister for who can be the most selfish person or biggest ego in the room.

Last year I burst into tears (heavily pregnant) after various antics from family and this year they sang happy birthday WITHOUT me in the room. Absolute dickheads.

Happy birthday Live for tomorrow

Mine is New Year’s Eve. I’ve never had a birthday party on the day. Obviously I’ve seen friends as we’ve been out for new year. For the big ones I’ve done something in January but that’s it. No one ever remembers apart from immediate family. So yeah 10
minutes sounds about right. But isn’t that normal ish for adults? It was crap as a child.

My children’s birthdays are either side of Christmas and we treat them as separate days.
My birthday is in Spring and I can’t be arsed. Neither can my husband whose birthday is in the autumn.

Mine is just after Christmas and this year is a landmark one and I will be at a funeral.

I’m hoping to go away with oh or best friend later in the month!

Aw Smelly yes as an adult it's OK. I just see the odd post about birthdays and thinj that's the norm I suppose.

Sorry to hear that Dark.

Morewine happy birthday to your children!

Mine was this week; I worked but my colleagues got me chocolate & cards. Had a meal out with partner & daughter in the evening.

Ah op I always grew up thinking that was a nice birthday day to have! My dad is Xmas day and me and my mum the 27th together so we Are all used to the Xmas birthday blues.... Don't mention Xmas!! My brother is the black sheep in January... Tbh I find people that don't have a birthday then weird now ;) we are our own tribe. You aren't alone!

Aw happy birthday all you December folk! I am a spring birthday and it's always a big celebration. One of my friends has a December birthday though, and decided some time ago that, like the Queen, she would have an 'official' birthday too. She chose a summer date, so we had bbq and beer garden options if the weather was behaving itself. It worked a treat. Make a Queen of yourself and have a second birthday!

My mum's is on the 22nd December so in our house growing up we never really did Christmas until her birthday passed.
I think her feelings of having a birthday so close to Christmas has made me a lot more attentive of friends of mine who have birthdays in December. Will always ask if they want to do anything and make sure I definitely send a birthday card and present.