I've been with DP 12 years. We have 3 kids (11, 6 and 4)
He's a SAHD and I work full time, out of the house 7-7.
I did my last day at work for the year yesterday.
DP can be very lazy. Housework is never to an acceptable standard. I mention it time and time again, yet I still end up scrubbing the house whenever I'm off.
It isn't filthy, but it isn't clean either. It's frustrating that this falls to me.
He "forgets" appointments. I remind him every day of what he has coming up.for the day. I'm basically his PA.
He will complain about making me a meal when I come home from work, or if I make something the night before to be heated up (cottage pie etc) he never leaves me any.
So a lot of the time I turn to takeaway.
Which he is quite happy with as he is the one who suggests this a lot of the time.
I want to lose weight (need to) I am almost 17st. He moans at me for wanting this. He is also extremely overweight at 19st 8lbs. He doesn't see a problem with this.
I am autistic and I have hypermobile Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. I'm also suffering from severe depression and psychosis with auditory hallucinations.
Yet still the majority of being a grown up falls to me. It's so bloody frustrating.
And it's half past 8 and he's in bed, fast asleep while I try and spend some time with the 11 year old, and the 6 year old has a raging temperature and is throwing her little guys up.
Now, I know this is a difficult time of year for him. His brother hanged himself on boxing Day 4 years ago, and the family had to turn off the life support machine on the 30th.
But I am really fucking struggling right now.
AIBU to think he should try a bit bloody harder, and take some of the pressure off me?
I'm sorry if this is a bit scrambled. I'm trying to type while soothing the poorly one.