AIBU to think she should just take the hint and fuck off?

[Asdaortescos]

Ex and I separated two months ago, everything’s still raw and I’m trying to come to terms with it. Not that many people know, just our immediate family and we still care about each other, everything’s just all over the place and who knows if we will reconcile.

Anyway on my way to buy a few things in Asda before dropping DS off at nursery, I meet this mum from the school, we’re not friends friends but we do speak and she lives on the same road as me.

Conversation went as follows...

Her: Hi Asdaortescos, how are you?
Me: I’m good thanks, how are you?
Her: I’m fine thanks, are you sure you’re ok?
Me: Yes why?
Her: I don’t really see Ex anymore? Is he ok? Is everything ok with you guys?
Me: Yes, he’s just really busy with work and gym
Her: I always see him come from x road, does he live there now?
Me: no, he’s just really busy with work tbh nothing to worry about.
Her: Are you sure? You’d think he had another secret family laughs. I’ve also seen him on x coffee shop, he was just sat there looking down. Are you sure he’s ok? I saw him on x train station and he didn’t say hi, are you sure he’s ok?

The thing is, it’s true he does live there now. We just need space so he’s moved out, and I just wanted her to leave me alone. I’m not ready to talk about it. AIBU to think she should just let it go and take the hint? Or am I being sensitive?

She sounds really pushy. Well done for not telling her anything. Tell people when you are ready.

She was being extremely nosy!! YANBU.

After she asked you if you were sure I would have said a simple, 'Yes' and then made moves to say bye.

She knows rightly the two of you have split up for a while. She is just looking for confirmation (even though it's not her business). You did the right thing. She was probably dying for you to confirm the whole time.

Of course you're raw. She's a tactless, nosey bint. Next time, cut her off at the pass, do an airy, 'must rush, take care' & leave, don't engage. Hope things get better for you.

She interested in him and trying to get your confirmation that you are no longer together ?

I don't blame you for not wanting to talk about it, or for wishing that she'd have taken the hint, but some people just don't get hints.

Wow, YANBU. She is being very rude and digging for gossip to pass on. Next time you see her I’d breeze by fast and say “so nice to see you, in a terrible rush...”

YANBU at all, tell her to mind her own. Nosey beyond belief!

Nosy cow! When my parents split up I remember loads of the mums at my younger brother’s school being like this. Lots of intrusive questions being asked with faux concern but you could practically see them salivating at the prospect of juicy gossip.

Sounds like you handled it very well. Leave her to speculate as much as she wants, you don’t owe her explanations about your private business.

I did try to leave, but she's one of those people that pulls you back with a different question if you're trying to leave or cut the conversation. That's why she kept saying " are you sure you're ok/he's ok" every time I cut it short.

Sounds like she was looking for some juicy gossip under the guise of being "caring". YANBU. It's not normal to push and keep asking when you're not close friends.

Super tactless. This happened to some neighbours of ours. We all kept seeing the guy at odd places so it was obvious they had separated. We have a group and we all commented. It was their little girl who let the cat out of the bag first by commenting: oh, HE (pointing at her dad) doesn't live with us any more! Wiith her mum shushing her...She told us eventually, what we already imagined. I guess they needed to time to get used to the idea themselves before they could talk about it.

She was digging for gossip. If she corners you again, turn it back in her and ask her why she’s so interested in his movements

Is she stalking your ex? She seems to have seen him in a lot of places. I agree, bright and breezy next time. As tempting as it must be to snarl 'mind your own fucking business you nosy cow'.

She may just not have learnt social cues. Not everyone manages to pick up on hints.

She sounds like a nightmare and well done to you for dealing with it as best as you could. If I’m honest her insensitivity and nosey ways would’ve annoyed me and I would’ve been much firmer. Could you perhaps next time say yes I’m fine, nice to see you, have a good Christmas/weekend/day byeee all in one breath and leave?

I’d even make a joke to say wow you’re really nosey aren’t you? I mean if she can take the piss and ask you question after bloody question why can’t you just tell her what she’s like?

Be firmer but well done.

The wagon.

'I said everything was fine, do you keep track of everyone you've mets whereabouts because you have nothing in your life or is it just X you're obsessed with?'

That level of cheeky roundly deserved being lied to right to her face!

She knew you were lying, and rightly so - the message you gave there was 'Yep! I'm lying to you right to your face because you need to MYOB!!!'

Well done x

Just say to her everything is okay. I don't want to keep going over it please stop asking me the same questions. I don't want to be rude. I've told you everything is okay. Please except this and leave it at that. X

Honestly, I think you'd have been better off being honest that he has moved out but you don't want to chat about it. It sounds to me as though she might know he has another partner and was trying to drop a hint in case you were still with him and didn't realise he was cheating on you.

Nosy bitch

After all those observations about where she'd seen your Ex, I think I'd have been asking her if she was stalking him.

She isn't going to take the hint, so be ready for her next time with something suitably rude!

Yanbu. Nosy insensitive ho-bag.
Hope you're ok.
It's alright all these people saying "I'd have been firmer" but I think in reality most of us when put on the spot and not expecting it are so shocked that we dont react how we would like to think we would.

Some people are so flipping nosy and she was exceptionally pushy.
Ignore the woman from now on.