For context, DH has some friends from his school days, we are all late 20s/early 30s. They have all more or less outgrown the friendship group and grown apart but nobody is ready to admit it yet. Fair enough.
The women in the group and some of their partners have been quite rude to me over the years (all regarding my appearance, my accent, my education,...) so I do not really engage with the group anymore.
In the early days, when I still made an effort, they constantly complained about wanting to lose weight and start exercising. Fair enough, so when they started to talk about how they didn't know how to start X or Y I offered some friendly and encouraging advice, and it was always met with some variation of "yeah but it is easy for you to say because of [insert made-up thing about me]". I eventually took the hint that they just wanted to commiserate and stopped offering advice.
Anyway, DH is busy right up to Christmas this year and I agreed to sort out his list of Christmas presents. Would I be unreasonable to give them vouchers for exercise classes "to help them get started"? Part of me thinks it would be a waste of money, part of me is a little vengeful, and a third, much smaller part, thinks maybe a pole dancing or salsa class will finally get them moving and to stop complaining.
IBU, aren't I?