Christmas gift opinion - WIBU?

[OopsHowDidThisHappen]

For context, DH has some friends from his school days, we are all late 20s/early 30s. They have all more or less outgrown the friendship group and grown apart but nobody is ready to admit it yet. Fair enough.

The women in the group and some of their partners have been quite rude to me over the years (all regarding my appearance, my accent, my education,...) so I do not really engage with the group anymore.

In the early days, when I still made an effort, they constantly complained about wanting to lose weight and start exercising. Fair enough, so when they started to talk about how they didn't know how to start X or Y I offered some friendly and encouraging advice, and it was always met with some variation of "yeah but it is easy for you to say because of [insert made-up thing about me]". I eventually took the hint that they just wanted to commiserate and stopped offering advice.

Anyway, DH is busy right up to Christmas this year and I agreed to sort out his list of Christmas presents. Would I be unreasonable to give them vouchers for exercise classes "to help them get started"? Part of me thinks it would be a waste of money, part of me is a little vengeful, and a third, much smaller part, thinks maybe a pole dancing or salsa class will finally get them moving and to stop complaining.

IBU, aren't I?

Being vengeful takes more effort than a bottle of gin. I wouldn't want to spend any more time than I had to on them.

You would be very unreasonably and bitchy

Nasty attitude and doing yourself more harm than them. Is restarting the relationship as adults too difficult? Can you not enter Christmas with a touch of both reflection and forgiveness?
Sounds more like you have hang ups and wooden legged chippiness than them being nasty. Try and like yourself more - starting by recreating yourself as a kind person.

Just the fact you would even think about it kind of give them justification for feeling the way they do about you. Could you be coming a bit too much as 'I know better than everyone else'?

If you have many friends outside of this group, then I would just take it that you are very different, and I would just let your OH deal with them, including presents.

Seems an expensive two fingers up at them- just get some cheap plonk

@OopsHowDidThisHappen your DH must be very stupid letting you lose on the presents and then wanting to put his name to it. I'd be furious if my DH did this to me.

Nobody is so busy they can't order a few Christmas presents online. Leave him to it but feel free to suggest the pole dancing class.

Not sure why youse are bothering to bug them presents at all. Presents for a whole group, plus partners, particularly if they’ve all grown apart and aren’t even nice to you is a bit unnecessary..

I understand where you are coming from, but buying exercise class vouchers would be an unnecessarily goady and vengeful thing to do. But you know that really.

To be honest, I still wouldn't be too delighted to be landed with the job of buying this bunch of twats any gifts so I get you there.

Just buy and email them all Amazon vouchers to a value you are comfortable spending, with a generic message on them. Job done.

One of those ‘fantasise but don’t actually do’ things, I’d say... I’d not be buying the presents on behalf of your DH though. He can purchase them online himself if he’s that fussed about it.