To buy my kids something they need as their main Christmas present?

[Pjsandbaileys]

Its a very specific bed she wants I have a budget I save for Xmas but if I get all her normal teenage wants she won't get the bed for sometime and it's very much needed. I'm spending the same budget on all my other kids the are getting all their wants but that does include the "need" stuff like branded trainers etc. I just feel a bit bad I can't afford to do both but I do realise I'm lucky I can do it at all!!! How would you feel with such a sensible pressie or is it akin to getting a hoover lol?

By need trainers I'm talking about they need new trainers but because it's part of a present they get branded. I'm a single working mum if that makes any difference.

Have you asked her?

Dh once gave me a Hoover for my bday :). I really wanted a specific one and I was very happy. Hoover it self proved to be rubbish though. We got a new one but that time it wasn't a bday present,

You can get a bed cheap or second hand - presumably you would just buy her a cheap bed if it wasn’t Xmas. As she wants a specific brand Yanbu making it a present.

Dd is getting a special bed for christmas too. Normally something like a bed wouldn’t be a gift, but in dd’s case it is like the difference between functional and branded trainers so I think it qualifies. If I was just buying her a regular bed it would be much cheaper and I wouldn’t count it as a gift, but instead she wants a loft bed hence gift.

As she is a teen I would ask her.

But I think as you have acknowledged that it is in part a need then ideally you should spend a bit more on something else to cover that bit (if that makes sense)

Or buy her the other things she wants and give her money for the other bit which can be added towards the bed she has chosen if she wishes when you can pay the rest

I haven't asked her but she along with her brothers are very sweet and she would say she doesn't mind. I know she doesn't expect to be bought the bed after many years of being super skint and everything we have was either budget or 2nd hand I thought I would surprise her with it (it's a bit blingy for my taste lol) I suppose I'm asking how teenage you would have felt? I love practical pressies especially as I tend to buy myself very little and yes I would appreciate a good make hoover but I know some people would go bonkers lol

And yeah it would be the extra for the fancy bed compared to a standard cheap one that would be taken from budget not the whole cost.

I think if it’s a bed she wants and doesn’t think you can afford then if course it is a gift!

Teenage me would be very pleased 🙂 But is have wanted some little presents to unwrap too!

I think it’s a great idea

If she really wants a bling bed then I think that would be a fabulous present.

I bought my 5 yo a mid-sleeper he was really hoping for, for a birthday present, he was pleased.

As a teenager I would have been really pleased with something for my own room, definitely.

I thought you were going to say something like winter coats, and due to receiving my winter coat for Christmas one year whilst my brother got toys I was going to say it could be unreasonable but a bling bed sounds fantastic.

If it's blingy she may well go off it before it needs replacing. I'd go for a plain bed with blingy bedding and/or accessories.

It isn't something she 'needs'.

The 'need' bit is coming from the household budget.
The fancy 'want' bit is coming from the Christmas budget.

Sounds fine to me.

Just ask her. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. It's about her.

Ask her if she wants the bed for Xmas or a budget one, and something else for Xmas.

For his 15th my ds asked for his room redecorated!! New bed and duvet set and I bed she be chuffed!!

If I ask her she would definitely say no mum don't spend the money, she has only asked for a few small bits. I think she maybe has suddenly matured and realised how expensive life is and and how pants the last few years have been. I know she really loves it always says how gorgeous it is when we pass it lol it's not totally blingy just not my taste I'm a plain and boring all the way haha. I

If you know she loves it and considers it out of reach then she will be over the moon if she gets it on Christmas morning! I think it’s a lovely present given what you’ve said. Tour children sound lovely and a credit to you too ☺️ Merry Christmas 🎄

Only spend what u can afford - get the bed - and maybe a small gift?

Anyone else wanting to see the bed!!! I think it as part of her present is a good compromise

I would have been thrilled at that age. I used to spend free afternoons designing my ideal bedroom!

So, how will you wrap it and fit it under the tree, these are the important quy😁

Argh, hit send and spotted random guy. Questions!

I would have loved the bed and I am sure she will if she mentions it every time she passes and thinks she wouldn't be able to get it.

Yanbu