Friend coming round with ' all the presents '

[incognitomum]

One if my close friends always buys gifts for myself dh and my dcs (older)
I mentioned a while back to not buy this year and she agreed.

She must have forgotten as she's coming round with all the presents. I'm so stuck as don't have a clue what to get her? She's coming tomorrow night.

Aibu to mention it and say to just tell me what to get? To be honest she's very difficult to buy for. She has everything.

I would remind her of your agreement. It’s not fair when people do this - it creates stress and bad feelings as well as causing people to spend money they haven’t got spare on shit no-one actually needs.

I've been out and got her a voucher for reflexology at a salon near her work place. She has foot problems so should enjoy this? I've got a couple of things she'll like that are new so tbey can be from lads.

Next year I'm just not doing it. Might scrap birthday gifts too?

Donate to an animal charity(in her name) then if she loves animals and has “everything”

@MyMajesty

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@CurlyhairedAssassin

So for accuracy, DH has said that we aren't getting her anything for Christmas but just her birthday. She is his friend more than mine and it was his best friend who ran off with another woman.

MyMajesty if it was just me then I'd probably have just reminded her. But she's bought for us all and the dog. I'll make sure she knows for next year and keep reminding.

Why should it make a difference who she bought for? The agreement was that you weren’t exchanging presents. You’re coming across a little bit like someone who lets others walk all over them TBH.

Next year I'm just not doing it.

But you said that this year!!

I've got a couple of things she'll like that are new so tbey can be from lads.

Hang on, you’re planning to give her stuff that you had bought for yourself that you haven’t used yet so will give them to her as if they’re from your children?

If thst’s what you mean you’re going to do then you’re flat out nuts!

Okay, charades!

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• mimes wiping feet •

You were foolish for giving in and buying her gifts. I'd have replied straight away saying that you had both agreed not to buy gifts this year. Tough shit if she was left with them. She could have passed them on to someone else, or charity or even kept them. I've done this with a friend and if she showed up with gifts regardless, I wouldn't give a shite about not having anything for her.

She obviously enjoys giving gifts. ’You shouldn’t have, as we agreed not to I did not get you anything. Let’s go out for a drink/dinner soon and it will be my treat!’