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Sharing Christmas with separated parents

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EasterBun2001 · 16/12/2019 18:20

One AIBU and also looking for advice -
My parents have been separated since I was 18 and since then we have more or less taken 'turns' spending Christmas day with one parent every other year and spending a few days with the other over the Christmas period.
Now in my late 20s I have a home of my own that I live with DP and dog. All I want to do is wake up in my own home and have a quiet Christmas! Problem being we live 5 mins from DPs large family and so if we stay here we are likely to see them on Christmas day (mum lives abroad and Dad 2 hours drive away) Mum makes a big deal about me spending time with their family and not mine, dad doesn't mind as long as I make the effort to seem him over the Christmas period which I do.
So AIBU wanting to stay home for Christmas with DP + Dog and see my family over Xmas period? (It's just a day!)
And also how do I discuss with my mum that this 'taking turns' will need to stop at some point?! And is that unreasonable?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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Winterdaysarehere · 16/12/2019 18:22

Your dm moved abroad? She can't expect to be everyone's priority imo.
New house, new rules.
Stay home. Have a time slot everyone can call for a cuppa and some snacks.
Yanbu to be 'selfish' at Xmas...

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