Grounded!

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Is it right to ‘ground’ a 16 year old?

No, you want home to be somewhere they want to be not have to be.
How will you achieve it anyway?

I haven’t done this. My ex partner has grounded our 16 year old for 2 weeks!!!

If it’s deserved, then absolutely yes! Actions have consequences. What did they do? Context is everything.

Hard to enforce at that age unless you’re built like a brick shithouse and they’re, er, not.

Lying about going to a party.

I was grounded at 17 for 6 weeks which my mum fully enforced despite me missing 3 of my best friends joint 18th party which the whole of my year went to

Yes, perfectly reasonable if it is proportional to the offense. I have a 16yo and can assure you that it is used.

They could marry and have sex at that age...🤷🏼‍♀️
I think adult conversation about it is best. Can they be stopped going to a party at 16...

Then they can’t be trusted to be where they say they are? Mine would be grounded too. That’s unsafe and reasonable imo. 2 weeks maybe a bit harsh, I’m sure we’ve all done it, but then we all face the grounding when caught too.

She lied about going to a party. That's pretty childish behaviour. So she gets grounded.

If she wants respect then she needs to give respect, and that includes listening when shes told she cannot go to a party.

What had you done SmallPinkBear ?

Is she with him for the next 2 weeks or is he expecting you to enforce this too?

Reasonable- yes
Enforceable - not as easy

At 16 a parent should know where you are

Acts like a child, gets treated like a child!

Lying about a party warrants grounding!

Of course it is! Depending on the misdemeanour committed!

I think it’s still just about reasonable. You’re still responsible for them.

Hard to enforce. Depends on how much they fear you I suppose.

I left home at 16 so pretty impossible to 'ground' me.

I was grounded at 16 for a week 😬 (I'd drank half a litre of vodka at a house party and my mum had to come and pick me up- I'd also told my parents I was having a cordial sleepover at a friends 😑😑).

How will you enforce and is it worth the hassle?!! I picked my battles when my children were teenagers...they are all lovely,hardworking adults now !

@LoseLooseLucy in your defence, you drank it like cordial 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

@Breastfeedingworries I hate this argument. 16 is still a child living at the OPs house, where she is expected not to lie in order to ensure she is safe. If she wants to get married and have sex or go racing unchecked then she will have to find herself a partner and do it from her own home.

Racing is meant to be raving, but I suppose that also counts.

Haha I sure did gangsterwrapper 😷😷

Yes I’ve grounded my son for similar and also taken his phone off him. That’s what really hurts, not the actual grounding.

Yes of course. And if it's 'hard to enforce' as people say then something has gone wrong in parenting. No 16 yo should be walking out the house if grounded, and not something I would have ever dared or even considered to do.