Grounded!

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Is it right to ‘ground’ a 16 year old?

How will you enforce and is it worth the hassle?!!

that's what being a parent means, of course it's reasonable.

Not respecting your parents is slowly losing all your privileges, most teens find life pretty grim if they get nothing anymore because they don't respect the house and their parents.

If that is not worth the battle, then what is?

How do you ground an adult-sized late teen? They lied about going to a party so they have disrespected (presumably) your ex. A more practical consequence would be to withdraw an enforceable privilege such as wifi access/cellphone top-ups at his home. No internet is far worse for a teen than being stuck at home. Plus, it's something you could replicate at your home (if necessary) without impacting your plans/routines.

No at 16 you cant ground them.
That's for 10 year olds.

Of course you can. It’s prime ‘grounding’ age. Who goes out age 10?

Most people seem to accept the law of the jungle in their home, by the sounds of this. If your teenager has an ounce of respect for you, they will do as you ask and stay in the house.

A party? How lovely. They sound really popular

Of course you can 'ground' a 16 year old.

I suspect the people posting that haven't got teenage children.

You can absolutely ground a 16yo. My (16yo) DD would absolutely be grounded should I feel it necessary and I’d enforce it by not letting her out. I worry about those who think you can’t possibly make a child of this age do as you say. Why would you have such little control over your child?

How can you ground a 10 year old!?

I can’t even remember now @AtrociousCircumstance. It wasn’t that bad and even now my mum admits she was way too harsh but once she had said it she wouldn’t change her mind as she always sticks to what she says... tbf that trait did work in my favour once when she told me if I got a gold in the maths challenge we did at school she would buy me a moped. I somehow fluked a gold (multiple choice so lots of guessing) so she kept her word and bought me one

Haha SmallPinkBear - your mum sounds like a legend

Of course you can, but if the punishment is something that needs to be replicated across two houses the ex should have spoken to you first. Unless he's just doing this at his house.

How can you ground a 10 year old!?

It works a lot better for a 16 year old, but you can still cancel party invitations, sports events and so on for a 10 year old.

You can certainly try. Could well be counter productive though.

You should think carefully about why they lied and do you want them to be honest in the future or just better at lying.

Teens go to parties and drink. Trying to stop that completely is unrealistic. You should aim for a relationship where they feel comfortable asking for help when they need it.

Teens go to parties and drink. Trying to stop that completely is unrealistic.

to stop them going to ALL parties is wrong and unfair.
to stop them going to a specific party for a very good reason is absolutely fine, and good parenting! They could be punished for whatever reason, you might think the party is not safe.. plenty of very good reasons to forbid them to do something.

Of course a 16 year old wants to be all grown-up, independent etc. Lucky for them, they still have the benefits of being a child, so they have to put up with parental rules.