To be utterly pissed off at my MIL

[imdoingthisagain]

MIL is always turning up unannounced. I'm talking every couple of days and always at the worst times (when we're having tea, when we're trying to put DS to bed, when we've only just got in from work etc).

Today though she really pissed me off. DS was napping in his bouncer, he's been really grouchy all morning because he's tired so thought great, we have some quiet time whilst he's asleep.

Next minute MIL knocks loudly on the door, thus waking DS up from his nap. He's now in an even worse mood before because he was woken up after a short time.

AIBU to be really angry at this? I've had enough of my house not feeling like my own; it's like none of DHs family can bare to be away for more than a couple of days. It's not difficult to send a quick message before hand to ask if it's an appropriate time to visit!

[Limensoda]

This is the way your boyfriend's family are. People behave the way you allow them to. Stop wishing she would stop it and deal with it fgs!
Your boyfriend doesn't mind his mother doing this,...you do, so as an adult you should be able to tell her you don't like it, or ask her to call first because it's not always convenient.
There doesn't have to be a drama. You can tell her nicely but if she gets upset or annoyed, that's not your problem.
I never understand why some people expect everyone to think the way they do.

[Lexplorer]

Just in the interests of clarity. If he is your boyfriend, she is not your mother in law.

It's clear enough what op meant.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

” Don’t be silly. People don’t post when they don’t have issues with their mil, husband, Sil, best friend, etc. What would be the point. I get bored of the accusations that Mumsnet has a problem with mils.”

Abso-bloody-lutely spot on, @T0tallyFuckedUpFamily!

[NoSauce]

It’s always best to tell the person that’s pissing you off to give them the chance to put it right!

Never understand the women on here who don’t.