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AIBU?

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Cheeky neighbours

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Pinot4me · 14/12/2019 16:17

Last night we went to a 50th birthday party. There was one of those picture boards of the birthday girl with lots of childhood pics along with snaps of fun times with friends, neighbours and family etc..
I think everyone at the party featured - some of the pics were great.
Imagine my surprise when one of the pics, taken in our ndn’s garden, last summer had all our garden furniture, bbq, patio heater etc in it.
It was taken at a do they had - we were invited but couldn’t attend as we were on holiday.
We always leave a front door key and alarm code with ndn (who are also good friends) just in case there is a problem.
Some of the items they ‘borrowed’ were in our garage. The only way to get in the garage (unless you have a key, which they didn’t) is to go in through the front door, unset the alarm and got through the internal door to the garage.
It transpires that they ‘didn’t think we’d mind’ and let themselves in and borrowed what they wanted. They then put it all back and didn’t say a word.
If they had asked, I really wouldn’t have minded but AIBU to feel pissed off and annoyed at their cheek?! I’m really pissed off! DH thinks I’m overreacting...

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Whiskers14 · 14/12/2019 16:42

Blimey, it's one thing to borrow a couple of chairs, quite another to trundle the BBQ round as well! That's cheeky beyond belief and it would really make me question what other liberties they've taken. Such as I wonder if any of their BBQ guests crashed at yours for the night?! I'd be asking the other neighbours...

Pfefferkuchen · 14/12/2019 16:42

that's amazing that anyone could be that rude!

FruitcakeOfHate · 14/12/2019 16:43

Wow! I'd reset the alarm and change the locks and not trust them again. Probably wouldn't say anything but that would be the end of giving them keys.

heath48 · 14/12/2019 16:48

Voted YABU by mistake!!! Sorry,think they had a bloody cheek.

BloggersBlog · 14/12/2019 16:53

Wow!! Did they look at all abashed when you brought it up? If they REALLY didnt think there would be a problem they would have mentioned it. The knew they were being cheeky, and forgot when they put the pics up I bet!

Tombliwho · 14/12/2019 16:54

whaaaat?!

thenightsky · 14/12/2019 16:54

I've got lovely neighbours and I wouldn't mind, but I know they would text and ask me if it was okay first.

We often use each others driveways if when someone is on holiday, but always text to check its okay first.

KickAssAngel · 14/12/2019 17:00

If they thought you wouldn't mind they would have asked or mentioned it before now. They've deliberately keep quiet, which implies that they know it was wrong.
But the sheer gall of it is amusing in a WTF way.

DingDongSchadenfreudeOnHigh · 14/12/2019 17:02

This would piss me off right royally!

As you say, the actual borrowing is the least of it - it's the deceit that would rankle with me. Not even to say after you had got back "Oh, by the way, I hope you don't mind, but . . . ".

I'm glad you are retrieving your key. I couldn't trust them again.

For all you know, they have been through your Private Things . . .

Drum2018 · 14/12/2019 17:11

Glad they don't have your key. I definitely would be giving it to them again.

Arthritica · 14/12/2019 17:16

If they'd texted it would be totally fine. Using things without even asking is out of order. I think I'd be pretty weirded out by going through the house to the garage to get the barbecue

tillytrotter1 · 14/12/2019 17:20

Our neighbour used to have our key and we were being away at Christmas, we told them to borrow some dining chairs if they needed for the big family meal. Another neighbour, a nasty piece of work, phoned the police when he saw the neighbour carrying our dining chairs into his house!

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 14/12/2019 17:20

That’s well out of line! Unbelievable CFery.

surlycurly · 14/12/2019 17:21

Ooft that's the cheekiest thing I've heard in ages. No key for them in future

BMW6 · 14/12/2019 17:21

I would certainly speak to them about it - you would have said "yes" if they had had the manners to ask first, but are pretty astonished and annoyed that they entered and borrowed without your express permission!

MrOnionsBumperRoller · 14/12/2019 17:22

That's hilarious but off the scale CFery

SynchroSwimmer · 14/12/2019 17:27

I’m mischievous and would want to make them squirm...I would say, with a big smile ”oh look, you have the exact same patio furniture as ours!”

How about getting some cheap indoor cameras, that look like alarm clocks or similar?

Tooner · 14/12/2019 17:33

Bloody hell they have a right cheek. Imagine being trusted with someones house keys and just going in and helping yourself to their stuff. They could have had a right root around your house, who knows. I would be furious.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 14/12/2019 17:34

That's not cf that's temporary theft

DingDongSchadenfreudeOnHigh · 14/12/2019 17:37

Do you get their key when they go on holiday Pinot?

If so, go into their house and bring some of their furniture onto your lawn. Take pictures of yourselves and friends lounging on their sofa etc and say nothing, but post them on FB.

When they comment just say - "We thought you wouldn't mind".

autumndreaming · 14/12/2019 18:04

I think that's absolutely shocking! Can't believe people are saying they would let it go. The absolute cheek of them!

PlumsGalore · 14/12/2019 18:10

I think this is very cheeky indeed. I mean they had to have help to move that amount of stuff so potentially your neighbours and their friends traipsed through your kitchen and Dow stairs, maybe even had a cheeky nose around upstairs?

Did you actually point out the bottomed things things then? Did they have the shame to look embarrassed?

I get on with my neighbours but I thought they were a bit cheeky when we came back from holiday and found their over flow of rubbish in our bin, but I let that go.

THis is mega mega cheeky and disrespectful.

MistyCloud · 14/12/2019 18:41

😁🤣😁🤣

A whole new LEVEL of cheekyfuckery, but OMG it made me laugh.

I wouldn't fall out with them, but I would be changing the locks!

They really should have asked you, they really should! And I would be wondering what other liberties they have taken! (Letting their mates/extended family members sleep in your house/bed....... eeeeek! )

But if it were me I wouldn't want to rock the boat. So I'd let it go, but I would definitely change the locks and never give them a key again. A few pps are right that it's quite rude and disrespectful. (Still a bit funny though!)

Oh and YANBU!

WaggleWiggle · 14/12/2019 19:00

That’s really lacking in boundaries and respect.

Cherrysoup · 14/12/2019 19:03

I’m afraid I’d be a lot cooler with them. That would strike me as a massive cheek.

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