I think I am being unreasonable, but feel he has been disloyal. My husband of 10 years (together for 13) have 2 children each. We live several hundred miles from all of them. I have tried to get on with his children (now adults 30 and 28) but have only met his daughter once - not for want of me trying.
My children get on well enough with my husband and cards, presents etc are exchanged. My husband tends not to want to come back to the uk very often, so I see my children when I come back (every 2 months) and he sees his (once a year)
We sent cards today, and I have discovered that he has sent a card signed 'love dad' to his daughter and 'love Dad and Carol' to his son. Was I unreasonable to get upset and accuse him of trying to erase me in some way. The fact he did it deliberately was telling.
I did confront him, and he said he did it to 'keep the peace'. ???? I did reply that I didn't know there was a war on. After a long discussion, tears etc, i think he realised that I was upset and he was sorry he did it. That won't mean he probably won't do it again though.
But am I being unreasonable? Is it just the natural way things may be in second marriages? Shall I just get over it and concentrate on maintaining the relationships with my own children ? I can't change how she thinks of me. I may well have answered my own question but it would be interesting to hear the views of others who have been on a similar situation.
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Carolamc · 14/12/2019 08:51
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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