AIBU to divorce DH over bathroom tiles?
BathHell · 14/12/2019 08:39
We were supposed to order them yesterday but still not decided on anything. He has NO imagination whatsoever so anytime I say what "about X on the floor and Y on the walls?" he will say "I dunno, I would have to see it all together"
I then suggest something random and he says "but I thought you wanted those grey ones??"
And when I showed him my Pinterest board for the millionth time he had the sheer audacity to say "wait so you don't actually know what you want? This is all very conceptual, you're just showing me elements of things you like?"
We wandered around B&Q all evening like this.
The bathroom is pretty big (17sqm for the walls and 4.5sqm on the floor) so we have to try and be budget conscious and the tiles I liked before buying a house are too many £ per sq m.
I am so so over this stupid bloody process. I wish we'd just gone to a bathroom designer.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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RJnomore1 · 14/12/2019 08:45
My husband struggles to imagine how things will work together too. I oresentbhim with one or two options - do you like this? and if he hates it we try something else, if not we get it. He can get overwhelmed left to his own choice in a whole showroom.
I get the same with food shopping tbh. Too much to choose from and my head stats to burl.
BathHell · 14/12/2019 08:45
I didn't MAKE him look at it, I've been pulling together ideas ever since we agreed to buy a house and I send him the board every now and again. He says yeah those are nice.
Last night he was saying he didn't know what I meant about continuing the floor tiles up a feature wall, do I showed him a Pinterest post. He then says he doesn't like mermaid scale tiles and I hold him that well no, it's the idea, web pick our own, and we can't afford those anyway
Stefoscope · 14/12/2019 08:53
Another who would just go with what you like and can afford. Sounds like he doesn't care that much (mine is the same). If he said he doesn't like Mermaid scale tiles then I guess don't go with them. I get it though, you want him to be happy as it's his home too, but if he's not expressing a useful opinion there's only so much you can do. I normally end up asking a friend or my mum for a second opinion if I'm still struggling to decide.
Dollywilde · 14/12/2019 09:02
I just asked my (terrible at visualising) DH what you should do. He also agrees you should just get the ones you want. The conversation had an added bonus of him admitting that all the renovations which I made to our house last year without his input (because he ‘couldn’t imagine them together’) look really good... result! Thanks OP
Goatinthegarden · 14/12/2019 09:14
Find some examples of what you want on Pinterest, find out which of those he likes (we create shared boards and both add our ideas). Then go online to all the tile shops and find what you like in your budget. Then go to the tile shops in person with your agreed plan.
Trawling around B&Q with no plan is a recipe for divorce!
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