Are you a male or female? Which country male partner is from? Want to mention I am not racist. I am from SE Asian culture and I think there is a difference in attitude in general.
dh and I have arguments.We both are seeing separate male therapists. He makes some efforts, but has taken me for granted for some things important to me.
In my individual session, I mentioned dh being caring for me in sickness(nothing major where I really needed help), being affectionate, helping with house-chores. Therapist asked if I think it's not normal. I was trying to give some credit to dh to balance things. But therapist said these things are normal, most men look after their partners in sickness, do equal share of house-chores.
I don't think it's the norm. My opinion is based on males in my family and culture, also what I read on internet (American relationship blogs).
Dh's therapist has a little different opinion - he believes men tend to be certain ways (not so emotional, more task-oriented, can zone out). I know this because I have read his blog on his website.
I want to know what the norm is. My therapist is British, dh's is American and we both are from SE Asian background. I am the only female. And every one has a different view on how men are usually in relationship - other than basic respect, trust, etc.
Many thanks!