Month fucking 15 ttc. Can I have some positive stories please?

[sparkle2020]

Hi. Month 15 ttc and i just need Some positive stories to hear about ttc naturally when it’s been over a year :( trying to avoid fertility treatments for now because my health isn’t great to start with and I am already back and forwards to hospital so I just don’t want to make ttc another chore really?? But I’m on month 15 now and have been doing OPKs since 26th November, which was the last day of my period (always done it that way cause my ovulation can be quite early at times so I just do it everyday until I ovulate), and have done them twice a day and NOTHING!! Aaaafgh I’m so frustrated. I had visions last year of announcing a baby at Christmas and the same this year and it’s still not happened, I just feel so sick of it 😢😢😢 I switched over to Poundland opks this month, can someone please just tell me they’re shit and faulty? I have ewcm atm but still been negative everyday

To those saying to go to the gp, is there anything I could say that might make them listen more as my gps are notoriously good at ignoring people’s problems!

Just explain that you have been trying for a child for 15 months and your worried there may be an underlying issue as to why youve not fell pregnant yet. Some are not interested until its been 2 years though

I was not actively trying but not preventing for 3 years nothing happened. I found out about Inositol via another forum and it's worked for me 3 times ( Only 2 DC though.) Within 2 months of taking it.
I have PCOS too.
I would try that and then if that wasn't successful I would go to your GP.

I would definitely have some bloods taken with GP to ensure things are ok. The waiting list for fertility treatment is very long and IME they wont even look at you until you have been trying for 2 years.

What @Jollitwiglet said is so true. I have stage 3 endo. The consultant looked very sheepish after going in laparoscopically as he hadn't really believed me in the consultation!!

Some areas you have to try for a year before you have investigations, some areas it's more. Speak to your gp ASAP. Like some others have said, some of the issue could be with your OH.

It took 19 months for me to get preg, I was literally waiting for my period so I could start Letrazole treatment! Sadly ended in mc. 8 months later I'm 7 weeks preg and totally terrified! I HATE the 'just relax and it'll happen' thing BUT I think there is some slight truth in it. When I conceived this time I'd ditched the decaf coffee, I didn't bother with any fertility reflexology and I didn't take my Letrazole tablet!! Here's hoping I have a sticky bean 🙏🏻

Also, I had a friend who tried for many years and once she had a polyp removed she fell preg a few weeks after! And since then she also had a 'surprise' baby!

We tried for 18m for first baby, had investigations after 12m and no obvious issues. Got pregnant the first tine we had sex in a morning rather than at night, worth a try? I maintain it made the difference. Went on to fall pregnant first try a further 3 times (2 miscarriages) Good luck, it's a horrible wait when you've decided you are ready for a baby

Hope it happens for you soon, OP! I have a bicornuate uterus too and they don't affect chances of getting pregnant. In some cases where it's very heart-shaped (like mine) the womb acts like one side isn't pregnant though so you can have bleeding throughout, but that doesn't affect the fetus on the other side.

Hi,

It took me 20 months ttc before it happened. I did have a couple of blood tests done and my husband had to give a sperm sample but it all came back as healthy. It just can take time for some people and I think we grew up having sex ed classes that basically suggested that we only needed to remove our knickers and we’d be pregnant immediately. Maybe that was more likely when we were much younger but not really the case in your 30s (as I am). I don’t want to assure you it will happen, but do try to stay positive. Allow yourself a little blub and then keep going. I was (and still am) a bit overweight so I started going to the gym with dh and we did feel so much better for it, even mentally, then we got pregnant that summer so exercising, if you can, might give your fertility a boost too. Good luck and keep going.

Very very sorry you’re in this situation. I know how it feels. I don’t have a positive story but I don’t think that’s what you need. Things I’ve learned:

• positive thinking doesn’t work. Neither does acupuncture reflexology going on holiday etc etc.
• if you’re having sex every couple of days during the middle of your cycle and aren’t conceiving, there is a medical problem (which may or may not be easily fixable). You need to know: are you ovulating, are your tubes clear, do you have any infections, are your hormones right (eg do you have enough progesterone to thicken your womb lining) and is your husband’s sperm ok.
• ovulation sticks can only tell you if you had a LH surge (tried to release an egg). They can’t tell you if you actually released an egg or if the egg was any good. A day 21 progesterone test can give you a better idea if you ovulated, but only internal ultrasounds can find out if there is definitely an egg there (and the only way to know if it’s good quality is to fertilise it and see).
• GPs know nothing about gynaecology but can refer you for useful free blood tests or if needed even a laparoscopy to see what’s going on. Ask for a referral to a fertility consultant. If you aren’t ovulating they can prescribe drugs (oral pills on first few days of your cycle) to make you ovulate and that might be all you need 🤞
• More useful are the blood tests / scans from private clinics which can offer things the nhs will not tell you about because they can’t fund them. The nhs is broken and may waste a lot of your time while telling you that you’re in the right process. If you are in your 30s you don’t have time to waste as eggs deteriorate. If you have the money get to a private clinic (and if you have more money get to the Lister in london or even better Serum in Athens).
• foreign clinics are much better than UK at all this.
• If you have no children (or step children) the nhs will fund 3 rounds of ivf. It’s not something you have to do though and it is a big deal.

Good luck x

It was 14 Months TTC here.. the last Month I stopped tracking and obsessing - had a great Month of Drinking, treating myself and genuinely having fun, managed to successfully conceive during this time and I'm now 4 Months pregnant. Good Luck @sparkle2020, I hope you're blessed soon

A few weeks ago a woman posted she had been diagnosed with infertility .... but her period was very late .... after a POAS, age was pregnant! Amazing! It can happen.

Thank you all! Will keep this threat updated and fingers crossed gp listen or I get a miracle positive test before that 🥴

Ordered some of the inositol that a couple of people mentioned too. Thanks for the suggestion. X

I hate to be this person but everyone has been so kind so fingers crossed I don’t get grief haha. can anyone see anything? I’m convinced I can. Maybe it’s the desperation of wanting to be able to tell my partner at Christmas the news he’s been hoping to hear for ages :/ thanks in advance xxx

sorry OP, but looks neg to me

did you test early/are you late yet?

I can see the faintest of lines. Did it show up during the three minutes or develop later? Make yourself wait a few days and test again. Wishing you so much luck.

I can see a faint shadow!
Did it come up before 10 mins?
Eek I am excited for you!
Test again tomorrow morning!

Also PCOS sufferer. I followed a really strict low GI diet and went from not ovulating to pregnant in 3 months. The diet regulates the insulin which is turn affects the female hormones. Definitely get checked out as there are lots of things that could be preventing it. A friend had a twisted Fallopian tube which was straightened out with keyhole surgery.

Good luck! X

We were TTC for 2 years. I was dianogised with PCOS during that time by the fertility team at the hospital. I conceived on the 3rd round of Clomid but was given Provera too to help induce a period as my cycles are so long and irregular.

I would definitely go speak to your GP and insist on being referred to fertility specialists for tests. It can be so upsetting (heartbreaking actually) TTC when nothing is happening and stressful on your relationship - even just the thought of having an appointment in the diary to see doctors who specialised in infertility was helpful for me as I hoped they would take it seriously and try and get to the bottom of what the issue was.

I hate the 'just relax' advice too, but I believe it worked for us. I placed a lot of pressure and hope on the first two rounds of Clomid, neither of which worked and which just made me feel quite unwell and upset. The third round was in the run-up to Christmas and coincided with a holiday so I'd accepted the idea that this round would fail as well so thought we'd try again with more testing after Christmas. Somehow it worked though and we now have an almost 18 month old who I count my lucky stars for. I don't know if we'll be able to have another child (it may take more treatment that I don't think we'll qualify for now we have one DC) but I'm so grateful for the DC we do have.

My DB and SIL tried for four years, eventually the frustration got to much and my poor SIL cried everytime she came on her period. They were just starting to go through appointments regarding IVF but fell pregnant naturally before her 2nd appointment. They now have a beautiful 5 year old boy. Don't give up hope OP ❤

I can see a very faint line, difficult to tell if proper line or shadow. Have you tested again this morning?