Month fucking 15 ttc. Can I have some positive stories please?

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Hi. Month 15 ttc and i just need Some positive stories to hear about ttc naturally when it’s been over a year :( trying to avoid fertility treatments for now because my health isn’t great to start with and I am already back and forwards to hospital so I just don’t want to make ttc another chore really?? But I’m on month 15 now and have been doing OPKs since 26th November, which was the last day of my period (always done it that way cause my ovulation can be quite early at times so I just do it everyday until I ovulate), and have done them twice a day and NOTHING!! Aaaafgh I’m so frustrated. I had visions last year of announcing a baby at Christmas and the same this year and it’s still not happened, I just feel so sick of it 😢😢😢 I switched over to Poundland opks this month, can someone please just tell me they’re shit and faulty? I have ewcm atm but still been negative everyday

It might be worth trying the Clearblue Fertility monitor. Worked twice for us. I hadn’t had so long trying to conceive but age wasn’t on my side. It uses sticks to wee on and you input dates of your periods. It then gives several high fertility days. It helped me as my days were much earlier in my cycle than I expected.

I thought it would never happen, 9 years of trying and we had totally given up & I had had counseling to deal with never having kids. Our daughter is now 10 months old - happened completely out of the blue when we relaxed & decided it wouldn’t happen!
Good luck

My parents started TTC when they got married in 1978. I was born in 1984. They found out they were expecting me soon after they gave up. I have a younger sister and brother.

18 months for number 1 and 3 months for number 2.
We went on holiday two months before we found out about number 1 and relaxed, decided to have nice holidays as a couple as it didn't seem to be happening for us. Made plans for Mexico for my birthday, 6 weeks later, we were going to be parents!!
He's 15 now and I still haven't been to Mexico!!

We tried for around a year before we sought help from our GP, they tested DH first and we then found out he is infertile, doesn’t produce sperm at all. We had no clue. We now know of several other couples where the DH has had the same problem, so it’s maybe more common than you might think. Therefore I’d urge you both to consider getting some tests done, the sperm sample is usually the first test GPs will do anyway so that could be a good starting point.
Good luck OP, I well remember the hopeless feeling that it would never happen for us but our first ICSI with donor sperm was successful and we now have a 7yr old DS.

I would make a GP appointment for both of you. How old are you?

Good friends, 10 years #1, 5 years #2. Unexplained infertility clockwork periods the works!

We were trying to conceive from September 2015. Investigations in summer 2017 revealed I had very low ovarian reserve. Basically very low chance of conceiving spontaneously and IVF was unlikely to work either. Donor eggs maybe, but I didn’t want to go down that route. All but gave up hope.

But, against the odds, our little son was conceived in December 2018 and is now 3 months old.

Definitely go get some tests done. I TTC for a year, then went for a fertility checkup where I was diagnosed with PCOS. prescribed metformin for it, 3rd month of taking it was pregnant. One thing I would say though is don't rely too much on OPKs, the month I conceived I didn't get a positive OPK despite doing them every day.

2 years for DC1 and 1 year for DC2, both without fertility treatment . I had irregular cycles and low vitamin D. Just had to keep tracking my body temperature and keep on going.

It is really tough going. I joined a few forums which helped me not feel so alone. Best of luck.

We tried for three years, had all the tests with no reason found and the day before our appointment to start me on Clomid I found out I was pregnant. Had a miscarriage but six months later was pregnant again with DC1, then went on to have more DC ending up with four children under the age of seven. The ultimate irony, after those three years of desperately trying to get pregnant and not being able to, was that DC3 was conceived in literally one 'try' and DC4 was an accident while using doubled up contraception.

You really should go see your GP and get the ball rolling on investigations. Fingers crossed you won't need them, not women who don't get pregnant within the first year of trying will get pregnant within the second year, but waiting lists for tests can be very long so the sooner you are on them the sooner you will be seen.

It took 2.5yrs ttc before dc1 I had my smear test and mentioned to the nurse we had been trying for 18months and she referred me to a Dr for tests. I fell pregnant the same week my fertility consultant appointment came through and went on to have dc2 in 2yrs. Tests showed nothing wrong with either of us and it just happened when it wanted to. Good luck, don't give up hope

I’d have the investigations sooner rather than later - we found out that DH had azoospermia - no sperm at all, so all the “just relaxing” in the world wasn’t going to get us anywhere! And we were shagging hopefully to absolutely no end. It was much better to know, because we had to have help. We were lucky though (twice!) because with treatment he was able to produce low levels of sperm and we have two beautiful kids to show for it!

@BlueLips on yeah, don’t start me on the “just relax” advise

19 months TTC for number 1. We had had clomid cycles with no joy. We were in the waiting for IVF stage, and it just happened.
9 months for number 2, 2 months for number 3.

13 years and no babies here. Go to your GP. Best to start investigations ASAP

2 1/2 years - tests & unexplained infertility.

Relaxed Xmas - 2 weeks later bfp.

Don't give up hope. 2nd time round bfp 1st time trying.

Agree though get testing done. I did. My diagnosis was unexplained infertility but we did get approved for ivf.

After DS1 we waited 12 months then following a miscarriage we were a good 18 months with no luck so was on Clomid and still nothing for a further 12 months, on the day I was booked in for laparoscopy to investigate tested positive!

Should add that DS1 was following antibiotics whilst on the pill so we thought it would be just as easy for 2nd

Took 20 months to get pregnant, miscarried, then another 5 months to get pregnant again. DS is now 1. Had some tests done after 1 year of ttc, turns ot DH has high numbers of sperm but low mobility, so not necessarily straightforward to get pregnant. Due to my age I'd never have been eligible for IVF on NHS (I was already 35). After the miscarriage I attended an acupuncturist with lots of experience of fertility and pregnancy acupuncture. I'm convinced she helped get me in a good place to conceive again and looked after me during the pregnancy too. Definitely worth looking into a registered, experienced acupuncturist alongside any other tests.

Good luck. It's a really shit time, sorry you're going through it.

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I know of two people who conceived naturally after IVF;

First couple spent 10 years trying, 3 rounds of IVF, she was approaching 40 and they had both found the process very tough so decided to stop. Planned a holiday of a lifetime, put a deposit on a very nice car then found out she was pregnant, with twins, naturally. Everyone was ecstatic for them.

Second couple, I worked with the wife. they had tried for many years, had one round of NHS IVF which failed and she was utterly devastated. They had both found it so difficult they decided to wait, save up for a second round of IVF, and take stock. About 6 months later she was pregnant and had a beautiful son who she was besotted with. They were such lovely parents and adored him.

A friend spent 2 years TTC. She successfully conceived after being prescribed Clomid.