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To be having a little cry...

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MurrayTheMonk · 09/12/2019 19:39

We are having our kitchen floor retiled. Unbeknownst to me this involved grinding the top level of the old tiles off. The tiler forgot to shut the door. The whole
House, upstairs and down is covered in red brick dust. The Christmas tree looks like it's survived a dust storm in the desert. I can't even get into the kitchen. The dogs were locked out of the way in our room for a while (against my strict instructions to DP) and one has pissed on our bed which I've just discovered after getting back from a horrible day at work.

I turn 40 tomorrow. Bad enough in itself. But I will now be waking up in a Martian landscape, probably after a bad night on the sofa if the bed doesn't dry out now I've scrubbed it with Zoflora.
DP has just said 'well you surely expected a bit of dust?' I want to murder him. The man is a builder. And if he'd 'expected a bit of dust' why did he not put dust sheets up? And maybe shut all the bloody doors.
Not much makes me cry but I don't even know where to start With the cleaning...and I'm starving but can't get to the fridge Sad.

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Fouryearoldvegan · 09/12/2019 19:41

Yanbu. I think if get a hotel for the night!

christmassymcchristmas · 09/12/2019 19:42

Yep, he can treat you to a hotel room while he cleans up his mess.

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MurrayTheMonk · 09/12/2019 19:44

I would if not for the bloody dogs!! That I would quite happily volley just now tbh.

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ThisIsSunrise · 09/12/2019 19:44

That is horrible. They should have taped themselves into the room as well as having the doors shut! The poor dogs must have been so scared too.

FlowersWine

RandomMess · 09/12/2019 19:46

You go to the hotel leave DP with the dogs and to cleanup?

Sparklyboots · 09/12/2019 19:46

Your DH can clean up. It's only a bit of dust

ginnybag · 09/12/2019 19:49

Conract the firm 1st thing tomorrow and raise it with them. They should have taken precautions or warned you re mess so that you could so put it on them to clean up and make right.

Happy Birthday for tomorrow - try not to let it spoil the day.

Oh, and you'll laugh about that Christmas tree one day, so take pictures!

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MurrayTheMonk · 09/12/2019 19:49

DP had the day off to supervise both tiler and Dogs. He has failed on both counts. I'm furious with him but can't even row with him effectively as we are all confined to upstairs and the Kids will hear. And the village pub is shut because it's Monday. Or else I'd be in there right now with a big pie in front of me and a bucket of drink.

I've tried damp wiping the dust but on contact with water it forms into a sort of glutinous paste and I've nowwhere to wash the cloths etc except the bathroom, which is the one room that is clean. He managed to shut the door there!

We have two more days of this as well-just tiling mind, not grinding tomorrow at least.

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AdaColeman · 09/12/2019 20:02

Oh that's dreadful, you poor thing. Another vote for an overnight hotel.

One Christmas Eve, I'd got all my prep done, cake iced, everywhere polished and gleaming, so took the toddler out to see the town lights & tree. I left husband (now Ex) alone, supposed to be titivating a rocking horse he'd made for DS.
When I got back, the entire flat was a fog of pink dust. He'd given the teak rocking horse a buff with a fine electric sander, working in the kitchen, with the doors and hatch into the living room all open.
Even the Christmas cake was covered in pink dust. So I know how awful you must feel Murray!

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MurrayTheMonk · 09/12/2019 20:23

Adacoleman... what possessed him?

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billy1966 · 09/12/2019 20:24

Oh God, that really is totally shocking.
What a mess.
I definitely would be crying.
I can't even imagine how you would try to start cleaning up.

What a complete moron your husband is.

That tiler would have know about the dust.

You need to find out what he and whomever he works for is going to do about the mess.

Don't part with a penny.

What a pair of tests, your husband and the tiler🙄.

Let them fix this.
💐

billy1966 · 09/12/2019 20:25

Pair of twats.

AdaColeman · 09/12/2019 20:25

Who knows, it’s one of life’s mysteries!

Spacebowlisback · 09/12/2019 20:27

Oh god you poor thing. I hate dog wee. It’s the worst smell. Think DH needs to treat you to a new mattress for your birthday.

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MurrayTheMonk · 09/12/2019 20:32

That mattress is the single most expensive individual item I own Sad Tempur for my bloody 40 year old bad back SadSadSad.
It smells of Christmas edition zoflora now which may actually be more grim than dog piss.Grin
Thing is it's quite a big area so even if you didn't shut the door at first, who wouldn't realise and then shut it?Confused.
Well what's done is done I suppose but it's not how I wanted to spend the last night of my 30's that's for sure!

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Stressedout10 · 09/12/2019 20:33

Re the dust vacuum it up with the little brushy attachment for the hose works wonders, then a damp cloth.
As for the bed I recommend drying it with a hairdryer.
Re DH give him the vacuum and hairdryer whilst you have a soak in the bath and order a take out
WineFlowersfor you

Merryoldgoat · 09/12/2019 20:33

I’d be utterly furious.

Wishiwasonholiday1 · 09/12/2019 20:34

What a nightmare, I would be furious. Can you book a cleaner for 2 days time, when it's finished, so you know it will be clean soon?

Brigante9 · 09/12/2019 20:34

Jesus, I’d be furious. He should have had an extractor going on and the doors taped shut. What an idiot, as was your DP.

I have to say, I’ve already asked my dh to carefully supervise the carpenter, I absolutely would be devastated if the job caused hassle or didn’t look proper. I’ve had so many uncaring tradesmen through the doors over the years. Recently, one has dented my shiny new cookerhood and bashed the newly plastered ceiling/walls.

Stressedout10 · 09/12/2019 20:35

Sorry cross post don't use a hairdryer on a temper mattress

mixtap · 09/12/2019 20:38

Could you get a professional cleaner in and charge the tiling firm. Their fault entirely.

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MurrayTheMonk · 09/12/2019 20:40

I will be getting DP a large roll of duct tape for Christmas for future jobs.....
Well actually I won't be leaving him in charge of any future jobs...

Yes-Think we will have to pay for someone to deep clean-Im working every day bar four between now and New Year's Day and we are away for two of those doing family Christmas with in-laws. I don't think I will be able to even (literally)brush the surface of whats needed here.

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Sexnotgender · 09/12/2019 20:40

Wow, I’d be livid!

That’s really shit.

TuttiCutie · 09/12/2019 20:44

After our renovations we used a professional cleaning company who specialise in post-build industrial type cleaning- eye watering expensive but totally worth it.

Your DP can sort it and the fucking tiler can knock the cost off his bill.

I'd be telling DP in no uncertain terms that he can arrange the cleaning and break the news to the tiler about the cost.

EKGEMS · 09/12/2019 20:51

Hold up here-didn't your husband make plans for you to have dinner out for your milestone birthday?! Where's the cake? And presents?

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