To be having a little cry...

[MurrayTheMonk]

We are having our kitchen floor retiled. Unbeknownst to me this involved grinding the top level of the old tiles off. The tiler forgot to shut the door. The whole
House, upstairs and down is covered in red brick dust. The Christmas tree looks like it's survived a dust storm in the desert. I can't even get into the kitchen. The dogs were locked out of the way in our room for a while (against my strict instructions to DP) and one has pissed on our bed which I've just discovered after getting back from a horrible day at work.

I turn 40 tomorrow. Bad enough in itself. But I will now be waking up in a Martian landscape, probably after a bad night on the sofa if the bed doesn't dry out now I've scrubbed it with Zoflora.
DP has just said 'well you surely expected a bit of dust?' I want to murder him. The man is a builder. And if he'd 'expected a bit of dust' why did he not put dust sheets up? And maybe shut all the bloody doors.
Not much makes me cry but I don't even know where to start With the cleaning...and I'm starving but can't get to the fridge .

Birthday is tomorrow... there are dinner plans I think. But he won't have sorted anything out for the dogs who normally stay in the kitchen whilst we are out, so the DD's and I will be going on our own!

Sorry WHAT?? Nothing for your 40th?? I think you might need some emergency patio work done, no??

Oh I've been there, with a dozy pratt of a labourer who took an angle grinder to my hall floor trying to find a leak under the floor boards. All the coats and shoes in the hall, got covered in dust, and had to be washed, all the bedrooms,the sitting room and the kitchen had the doors open, absolutely destroyed, all the bed linen had to be washed, and it took fucking ages to clean the dust off everything
STILL makes me rage and it was 2 years ago.
And the useless eejit didn't even find the leak!
So yanbu, op, have a good cry.
And happy birthday 🎂

Oh poor you, OP.

I have been living on a building site for three years, so feel your pain. Dust even gets inside stuff that has been wrapped in newspaper and boxed up.

What kind of Hoover have you got? If a Henry (or one of his family), it will be fine for your DH to hoover up the dust (they are great for building rubble). If that doesn't work, and your standards are higher than mine, then a proper cleaning company once the main work is done.

But on a slightly unrelated note: why have you got your Christmas tree up? It isn't Christmas for another fortnight.

The dust is incredible it has to be said. It's got everywhere-this is not a huge house but it's got a weird lay out with lots of twists and turns and the dust has managed to navigate them all with aplomb.
I've just gone to clean my teeth and it's even on my toothbrush. And I'd thought the bathroom was ok.

The Tiler is a self employed (woman). I will have to try and talk to her tomorrow about the mess. Which will be awkward as DP will have said nothing at all to her about it today. So I will look bad. But I don't care-it's ridiculous to have made this much mess.

Two hours til my birthday and I'm off to bed. Thankyou all for at least sympathising-it has helped to calm me down some at least!

Christmas tree always goes up before my birthday-it's the law in my house. I like to have it all sparkly for the day of. Which is the opposite of what I now have this year

Vacuum is a Shark and I dont think up to it. I will get DP to bring home the Henry from work tomorrow. He is going to work and I will stay home and clean I suppose. (Will clean for a bit but I'm bloody well taking myself out somewhere nice and dust free in the afternoon).He is taking the Dogs to work with him mind....

Don't clean it before you show it to the tiler.

It's not the dogs fault. They should not have been locked in there. They can't help it if they need a wee. Your husband should have supervised the whole thing better.

Dustpan & brush or hoover the the worst of it then damp wipe OP. Towel on bed with something heavy on top to blot the worst of the dampness. I'd take pics first & demand discount for the hassle & inconvenience, is he a one man band or is there a manager you can contact? Shoddy to ruin your home. Have wine & takeout & think of the big discount that's in order.

I feel for you OP. That type of dust is so fine. I remember finding some between the pages of a book when we had some work done. OK it's shit but (apart from your now Zoflora scented bed) it's solvable. I always try to think of something worse like 'at least it's not flooded'. I'll get my coat...

Good advice from csiblonde about taking photos.

Tiler has seen it all as she was still there when I got home. Will talk to her today.
Took pics, to show my Mum mainly, but do have them.
I was up early this morning as have mega headache so have at least gone around the lounge so that we have somewhere to sit (kitchen paraphernalia aside as that's where we put all the stuff off the shelves and the sideboard-but a working and cleaning sofa anyway.
Am going to look for a cleaner to do a good deep clean anyway I think- I've still got a lot of Christmas and DD's Christmas birthday to sort out and work is mad as everyone (staff and patients) are dropping with Noro virus left right and centre.
DP has departed for work with the Dogs. I'm still a bit cross with him. I'm going out just with the DD's for my birthday and he is Dog sitting. He isn't happy but it's own lookout for not arranging a dog sitter-I'm not sitting in on my birthday in a dust bowl .
Starterd the day in a somewhat bad mood and with a bastard of a headache-let's hope the next ten years doesn't follow suit

And you are right-it's could be far far worse. Flooding or fire would be horrendous. This is just dirt and so it's not the end of the world.

God. This is shite. Poor you. What twats. House renovations are very stressful at the best of times, without added twattery!

@MurrayTheMonk Happy birthday! Don’t let dust and debris ruin your special day, your DH is an arse but hopefully a loveable one. And very soon you will have a beautiful kitchen floor. 💐🥂

Thankyou Lysanthius.
He has put up a huge. Isthmus banner for me. In the bathroom as it's was the only viable space to do so

Oh I feel for you. There is nothing worse than unnecessary mess! My ex husband decided to grind threw all in the upstairs hallway when I was 8 months pregnant, it was to put in a new switch which 8 years hated has never been used! We'd taken off all the downstairs doors to replace them at the time. Omg the mess, he left me to clear it all up!

Happy Birthday 🥳🍸🍹

Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday Murray! I hope you manage to rescue at least a good chunk of the day for some Birthday fun!

Definitely get yourself a hotel. I'm sure your DH will soon realise a bit of dust is a bit more of a problem when hes coughing his guts up and blowing out red snot.
I hope none of you have asthma or lung issues!

Gigiglingn at the link between mess making husbands and then being ex husbands... it's probably no coincidence!
I've decamped to the farm shop cafe (which seems a very 40 ish thing to do) for a dust free breakfast-so it could be worse

What a mess! I hope you find someone who can clean it for you!

Reminds me of my DH making a new kitchen for our new house, and deciding to chop the pieces of wood with a circular saw in the kitchen of the flat we were then staying in. I came in to make some lunch before going out to work and there was wood dust everywhere! He hadn't thought to clean anything away (not even the butter, which was open on the worktop ). I went to work and left him to clean it up!

Thing was, our new house had a garden and he could have done it there!! He's still my DH though, so he can't have done too bad a job cleaning up

Happy birthday