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To give these as Xmas presents?

90 replies

AliBear90 · 09/12/2019 01:10

So to make this as quick as possible, I have a 6 month old baby and now worrying that I’m in full pfb mode and that people won’t want these. I have had a professional photo shoot done of my baby and have got double photo frames and 2 of the photos printed for my parents, my partners parents, mine and my partners grandparents and my partners sister. Will these close family members actually want these or am I just too obsessed with my baby? I think I’d have appreciated a nice framed photo of my niece or nephew. All of them will get other presents too and I have receipt so can return frames if it’s a weird gift to give. So Aibu to give these as Xmas gifts?

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SofaCushion · 09/12/2019 07:37

As a gift for your parents and PIL, its a nice thought. Might seem a bit pfb for your SIL!

Last Christmas, my sister gave me a framed photo of my niece (with other gifts). We’ve got some lovely group family photos (with DN in them) that I chose to frame myself, but I’m not a fan of having a solo photo of DN on display, even though I’m close to my sister and chat to DN every day.

I’m not particularly fussed about BIL’s baby (neither is DH) and I definitely wouldn’t want a solo photo, so I think it depends on the family relationship too.

altiara · 09/12/2019 07:39

If give SIL the baby pic. Have done to mine and also given pics of nieces and nephews.

altiara · 09/12/2019 07:40

I’d give not if give Blush

Barsh · 09/12/2019 07:41

What’s the necklace thread referred to above?

pintsizeprincess · 09/12/2019 07:51

Prob depends on the family set up. Pictures for GPS definitely. We give the GPS those calenders with pics of the dds on them as part of their present every year ( at their request) and also for my sister and her partner but they live 400 miles away and don't see the kids very often so appreciate this type of gift. They have a couple of pics of them on display ( but don't have own family). My sister in law on the other hand has 3 children of her own and it would seem weird to exchange pics of each others kids as presents. However you know your family and how well these gifts would be appreciated.

Interestedwoman · 09/12/2019 07:57

YANBU- it's family, it's not like you're giving them to random friends.

GrapefruitGin · 09/12/2019 08:14

Personally, I wouldn’t be overjoyed if my gift was a pic of niece/nephew! But as pp has said, if it’s in addition then fine.

TheLightGetsIn · 09/12/2019 08:23

Yes to parents and grandparents if they like that sort of thing.

No to the sister unless totally certain she will love it.

My SIL is really into displaying family photos, but I suspect even she wouldn't be thrilled with photos of our DC for her own present. DH's parents would absolutely love it. Mine would be perfectly polite about it, but they don't display family photos so it would be a bit of a thoughtless present on my part. So I think as with any present it totally depends on the intended recipients, really.

TARSCOUT · 09/12/2019 08:26

I'm a sister always felt slightly peeved I didn't make the photo gift list! Go for it!

Newtothis2017 · 09/12/2019 08:29

Would you like a photo of them (pil, sil) as your Christmas present? My brother did this with his dc. We all smiled and nodded saying how lovely the photo was. In reality it is a terrible present. Nice to be given to gp's along with a really present.

Instatwat · 09/12/2019 08:29

Another one that thinks parents/grandparents ✅
Sister... not in my family but this thread has shown that it’s down to the individual.

finn1020 · 09/12/2019 08:39

Not for your sister unless you’re sure it’s the type of thing she’d actually like. Fine for parents and grandparents.

hiredandsqueak · 09/12/2019 08:52

I have a photo of my only grandson on display. It's one dd took because I don't like the formal ones if I'm honest and dd captures his character. I bought the frame because it fits my decor and taste.
I'd say grandparents will appreciate a photo if the frame is in keeping with their decor not sure photos of babies are appreciated by people outside direct family though.

MarianaMoatedGrange · 09/12/2019 08:53

I dislike displayed photos unless they are vintage monochrome or sepia ones - but most people seem to like them. I'd find this gift a touch self indulgent but I seem to be in the minority!

81Byerley · 09/12/2019 08:56

I'm a Grand mother and Great Grandmother and aunt. I'd love this!

CroissantsAtDawn · 09/12/2019 09:00

I get school photos of my nephew. i'm not keen to be honest.

I much prefer photos of him that were taken when I was there - so they bring back memories. I've got a couple of lovely photos of my DC with my DN and it makes me smile. Photo of DN in his school uniform, not so much.

emilybrontescorsett · 09/12/2019 09:01

I agree it's ok for grandparents and great grandparents, not for the auntie.
Also depends on the person. Some people love displaying photos others dont.
How about a printed mug for the auntie.

bumblingbovine49 · 09/12/2019 09:17

He and his best mate share an office and both became uncles pretty much at the same time, and they have a pinboard in their covered in pics of their respective PFNs’ milestones

I find this very sweet (and that is not something I say very often

Op, I think you know your family best. I often gave my parents and ILs pictures of DS as a present and they loved them. An even better present though was by my older sister. She made a framed collage of photos of all my mother's children (including my sister who died) and all her grand children. That was up on my mother's wall for a very long time

As for your sister, it might be better to get her something else but have the picture in reserve (maybe unframed) in case she asks for one or seems disappointed to not get one. Since your baby is so young, it may be a bit early to tell if she is the sort of aunt who wants photos of her nieces and nephews. If she is, you have a present for her next birthday or next Christmas sorted !

VanGoghsDog · 09/12/2019 09:31

I asked my sister fur years to give me photos of her kids instead of the usual tat she gave me, but she never did, and now they are adults and I have no pictures of them as kids really.

I also like to have a photo of my godson, which I did get. I wouldn't want any of them every year though, to be honest.

user1471449295 · 09/12/2019 09:34

Ok for parents and grandparents as an ‘additional’ gift.
Not for sister though

GhostEmoji · 09/12/2019 09:41

It depends, my DH's sister would definitely want one and would be really sad if she didn't get one. Others in the family wouldn't be too fussed.

We're actually getting photo biscuits made this year so everyone can eat the photos Grin

Skinnychip · 09/12/2019 09:50

I used to get smaller copies of school photos to give to GPs, sister and my uncle. (As a small extra present rather than main)
GPs and sister def had them on display and MIL is very direct, she would definitely have told me if they didnt want one!! (She tells me about other presents she doesn't want and food she doesn't like)

FenellaMaxwell · 09/12/2019 09:53

Ah, thanks @bumblingbovine49 - I do too. He also Skypes DS every week even though DS has speech delay and can’t talk. Smile

ChristmasSpirtsOnTheRocksPleas · 09/12/2019 09:56

I think close family would love the pictures but consider their decor when choosing frames. I hate, absolutely hate, almost all photo frames except very plain, thin black ones. I can cope with plain metallic or white ones if I have to but that’s it.

LightDrizzle · 09/12/2019 10:04

I voted YANBU, particularly as they are also getting other gifts.
But for the love of god, can somebody please post a link to the necklace thread? It sounds like a belter.