To want to tell my parents about all the times I lied to them as a teenager?

[Laraloodoo]

I had lunch with my parents today and had to fight the urge, again, to tell them about all the stuff I got up to as a teenager that they don’t know about. It’s not anything crazy- usual teen things such as Katie not having given me about 20 items of clothing in a month but that I went through a shoplifting phase, or how I spent half my girly, pamper sleepover nights at 17 raving in a field in hot pants and chewing my face off on E. I just can’t decide whether they’d find it funny or would be upset. Have you all come clean to your parents?

My parents would die if they knew about my teenage years.

Don't tell them. My kids are 25 and 26 and if they told me that I'd slap their faces. I'd be fuming. Stealing and taking drugs is something most people would not find funny.

I would be very upset if my daughter did this. Leave it in the past, there's nothing to be gained by telling them

I wouldn’t, what’s the point?! They either know or strongly suspect some of the stuff or they’d end up feeling like a failure.

My mother didn’t speak to me for months after I moved in with my long term boyfriend, aged 25. She told me I was “damaged goods” and that “he would always be able to throw it back in my face that I wasn’t a virgin.” So no. No urge to tell her about my horny teen years, or anything more.

If it comes up in conversation, fine, but otherwise seems weird.

Not sure why you'd have to fight the urge to tell though? It's not like it's a big secret coming between you. If you want to spice up the conversation, why not discuss these things as issues based on the news, current research, articles/books you've read.

I'm 40 and had a recent, similar kind of conversation with my mum (aged 70).. told her about the drugs I'd tried as a teen. She reciprocated and told me about her hitchhiking on a motorbike whilst on acid! Who knew?

Fyi, we're respectable and full functioning human beings now!!

*fully

Why would you? Bit weird. You sound quite young still too.

Don't tell them, but don't be naive when you hear other parents insist their children would 'never lie' and that other people's kids getting up to mischief are obviously scum. Smile & nod & let them be deluded since they obviously prefer that.

Why would you?
What would DPs get from it?

If it is a guilt thing and you want to unburden tell them that before you do it.

I would seriously question your motivation here. Your parents are happy and pleased because they think you got through your teen years ok and they did a reasonably good job. You want to pull that rug under their feet which would almost certainly hurt them. Do you feel resentment against them for something bad they actually did or do you just want to upset them for the sake of it? If the former, then you need to address the matter that is actually causing a problem between you, not indulge in cheap put-downs. If the latter, then you need to grow up.
And if you are simply feeling guilty about what you did, sorry but that is your responsibility to deal with, not theirs.

No thanks. I know all I need to know.

Your wish to confess suggests you remain as immature as you were in your shoplifting and drug taking teens.

I told my mum what I got up to and she already bloody knew! Comes with having older siblings I suppose. I was an absolute nightmare teenager, and now when I moan about my toddler being a nightmare she says "you have the child you deserve" chances are they know OP!

Why OP?

Why? What is your motivation for telling them? Your parents probably has some inkling that you weren't being 100% honest anyway without knowing specifics. Ni point in telling them just so you can all have a jolly laugh about how 'wild' you were. We had problems with obe of our DS due to drugs when he was in his teens. You obviously didnt put your parents through what our son put us through because they would know about But seriously, it's over, move on. I'm really not sure I'd want to know all about the shoplifting either . Your parents dont needs to know everything about your life. Just as you dont need to know everything they did in their youth either .

No I wouldn’t tell them.
Your punishment will come when you have teens yourself

They're not usual teen things they're stupid and dangerous. Spare your parents and don't tell them

Are you ok? Leave them alone. Nobody will benefit from your urge to confess. Grow up.

Ah me and my brother have confessed to our evilties over the last couple of years. About how we used to throw all sort of clothes and bedding out the bedroom window them just out of it... we used to go to the top bedroom, climb out that window, and shimmy down the drain pipe onto the glass conservatory roof and then make off into the garden where we would ride a skate board down the big hill behind the greenhouse... eventually smashing a hole in it.

I had a swift trip to a&e when I stood on a metal stake in the ground to ‘balance’ on it and cut my leg open that needed a fair amount of stitching up.. I told my parents I was only stood on a parking log because I thought I might get tetanus and die so I wanted to do that without being told off they went up the park to investigate and found no blood or flesh on the parking logs much to their surprise.

Me and my brother put a beach chair behind our 2 seated swing so that it would get stuck mid swing.. resulting in me bashing my face and snapping my adult front tooth off.. we decided together to tell my parents I fell over my bike and we were being stupid.

It’s resulted in lots of eye rolls and ‘why would you lie about it?’ And ‘you’re both idiots’

But we laugh about about. So I’d say go for it, it’s funny to see their reaction to just not knowing what you were up to.

My daughter, at nearly 40, told me about what she got up to as a teen - not stealing or drugs though. There wasn't much I could say except that she now has 4 children and would have the same to deal with 4 times over.