Am I mean for not giving toddler a biscuit before bed?

[BiscuitGate]

So a huge row has erupted here, I definitely overreacted as I always tend to, but will give a back story first.

Toddler was over excited after coming back from seeing Santa, and probably tired as well. All of tea time he was throwing his food, drinks, cutlery anything he could get his hands on, onto the floor. Cue bath time its the same, throwing everything at me because he wont get in then throwing things because he doesn't want to get out. I said to him he won't be able to have a biscuit before bed if he carries on. I go down and explain this to my mum and she then proceeds to tell me "you don't punish children by not feeding them".

Maybe I was a bit mean but AIBU in thinking that that is a really weird/harsh way of putting it? Like if my kids are naughty I starve them? I don't know I'm probably making a mountain out of a molehill

Why was your toddler throwing things?

Toddlers throw things. No one knows why most of the time. You may as well ask ‘what is the meaning of life?’ and ‘how long is a piece of string?’...

What do you mean, biscuits aren't food?
They are food, perfectly fine food in moderation.
MN food threads again=complete insanity.

I’m quite happy to remove treats if my DD is acting up. I wouldn’t remove her dinner.

A biscuit before bed as part of his routine isn't very good for his teeth, especially if it's after brushing. If I were you I'd phase it out altogether or at least make it just after his tea.

Oh give over.
Half an hour before before bed, a supper of a biscuit and milk.
You know what is damaging, the attitude to food that a biscuit is terrible, they must be having their teeth brushed immediately after, their kids would bounce off the walls after half a rich tea
Now that is damaging.

Toddlers throw things.

Some lucky lucky bastards have toddlers who don't. My friend had one until DD3 and was under no illusions that it was her parenting. Some toddlers are easier than others.

Some have biters , hair pullers, throwers, fussy eaters, non sleepers, loud ones, messy ones, contrary ones, angry ones, lazy ones and ones that would drive the Dalai Llama 🦙 to drink. It's mostly luck that decides which you get. So let's be kind to ourselves, others and the kids. It'll come good in the end.

Milk and biscuits were always part of bedtime here. 2 rich teas of an evening have done my DS no harm.
As for taking away, probably the wrong call tonight but you know what we all make the wrong call from time to time.
Don’t worry about it, your little one was overtired and December is challenging enough without creating guilt you need