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Picture of Bozza and girlfriend wearing sari visiting a Hindu temple.

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longwayoff · 07/12/2019 23:53

Carrie Symonds is wearing a sari. Is this cultural appropriation and unreasonable? Or is it showing politeness to your hosts and therefore reasonable? Which?

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longwayoff · 07/12/2019 23:55

Bugger. I didn't put a vote on here but its got one anyway. Hey ho. Cultural appropriation yes? Or no? then.

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 08/12/2019 00:01

Boris was wearing a sari?

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WorraLiberty · 08/12/2019 00:03

Shopping in Sainsbos - Cultural appropriation

Visiting a Hindu temple - Polite gesture

I would absolutely love to see Boris in a sari. Do you have a link?

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Pipandmum · 08/12/2019 00:04

A sari doesn't have any religious associations and I think they would be happy she is sharing in the culture in this way.

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 08/12/2019 00:10

It was respectful dress in a religious building.
DS2 covered his hair in a gurdwara
I wore a scarf in a mosque.

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EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 08/12/2019 00:13

I think depends on how she wore it

Very sexily and revealing a no no more modestly I would have thought many would be impressed

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Mollypolly2610 · 08/12/2019 00:14

Kate wore Pakistani national dress.
I wore Salmar Kameez when I lived in India and went out for lunch with local ladies
It’s polite

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PerpendicularVincent · 08/12/2019 00:15

I don't think it's cultural appropriation at all, she's not receiving any 'advantage' wearing it. It seems like appropriate dress for visiting a temple.

Life would be pretty dull if we could never wear anything we admired from a different culture.

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honeyytoast · 08/12/2019 01:15

I think if it’s a sign of respect for the culture you are interacting with then it’s fine. Eg covering your head in a mosque.

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MinervaSaidThat · 08/12/2019 01:48

Not cultural appropriation at all but totally unnecessary.

She looks gaudy compared to elegant Kate.

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HeIenaDove · 08/12/2019 03:20

"Bugger. I didn't put a vote on here but its got one anyway"

Same thing happened when i started the Phil and Holly thread.

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HuloBeraal · 08/12/2019 03:35

Not going to vote for BJ. As anti Tory as humanly possible. But no it’s not cultural appropriation. It’s respectful. Although as an Indian I will say that that is not a nice saree at all. We have so many beautiful silk sarees and styles- why do people who want to wear it as a gesture of respect select the gaudiest ones?

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Bluerussian · 08/12/2019 05:03

I thought Carrie and BoJo had split up - obviously not.

She looks well in a sari, it's very pretty and flattering.

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FenellaMaxwell · 08/12/2019 05:10

Much as I hate to defend that fucker over anything, it’s polite. I’ve been to a lot of Asian weddings and family celebrations, and it’s always appreciated if you make the effort.

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Nicolastuffedone · 08/12/2019 05:29

Thought she looked lovely! Scottish friends of ours travelled to India for a colleagues wedding, they wore saris and looked gorgeous!! Don’t see the problem.......

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ConfessionsOfTeenageDramaQueen · 08/12/2019 05:39

Cherie Blair always wears saris at appropriate events. Duchess Kate wore one recently in India.

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Nokeysnoentry · 08/12/2019 05:47

Seriously? No, it’s not cultural appropriation. What annoys me is that it is often just the women that change the way they are dressed and not the men. Does that bother anyone else?

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Nicolastuffedone · 08/12/2019 05:54

Don’t the men usually wear an orange head scarf.....?

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AugustL · 08/12/2019 05:54

I thought based on OP and certain responses that she was wearing a head covering required in a religious building, but no, just googled, she's wearing a full on outfit, no head covering.

First link I saw:
www.reddit.com/r/DistinctToday/comments/e7mqtv/carrie_symonds_looks_elegant_in_a_sari_as_she/

I wouldn't think that would be required wearing to visit a temple. So no I don't think it's politeness or respect for a religion, unless they require women to wear those to enter the temple, which I very much doubt, but I'm not 100%. It's playing dress-up. Hmmm.. possible cultural appropriate, or possible appreciating beautiful style of clothing which people there may appreciate. Was this an event, a dinner...? Or just popping in for press and votes? If a proper event/dinner probably ok. If not, not really comfortable with it tbh. But I'm not a Hindu, or Indian. I would consult with them.

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GiveHerHellFromUs · 08/12/2019 05:59

Cultural appropriation? We're really clutching at straws now...

No - it's respectful to the culture.

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Fr0g · 08/12/2019 07:02

Do you consider it cultural appropriation if you see an asian person wearing jeans?

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GrumpyHoonMain · 08/12/2019 07:06

She wore a cheap sari to a UK temple where most religious Hindus wear western, indo-western, or North Indian style punjabi / anarkali dresses. I would say this was a publicity stunt less about pleasing UK born / resident Indians and more about pleasing the Hindu Council’s masters in India (the BJP / Far Right).

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GrumpyHoonMain · 08/12/2019 07:09

Stunts like this make me furious. Hindus aren’t like the other religions - we have no hard and fast rules about the ‘right’ things to wear in a temple - but if the BJP / Indian far right had it’s way all Hindu women would be wearing ugly sarees like the one BJ’s girlfriend wore as a uniform to the temple

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SymphonyofShadows · 08/12/2019 07:10

I don’t know if it cultural appropriation or not, but I can’t stand this blatant touting around of his OW, moving her into Downing St and his bravado about his sleazy life in general.

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BertrandRussell · 08/12/2019 07:15

I don’t think it’s cultural appropriation. I do think it’s a patronising publicity stunt.

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