First day taking the DC to school for a while because I've been in hospital or unwell at home, DC and I happy and excited to be back to normal, and now just feeling so deflated and dreading going out to pick DC up soon
I have 3 DC and circumstances that I'd rather not go into, that other mum is well aware of, means that this Christmas will be tighter than normal. She is a mum at school, I'd say our DDs are friends and we are friendly but not friends as such
She came out this morning with "You just don't know how hard it is when your child's birthday is 6 weeks before so close to Christmas, you have double the amount to pay out" and then went on and on about it
It would be insensitive normally, but given that she knows things are tighter than normal at the moment, it really pissed me off this morning and it's left me feeling shit the rest of the day.
She has 1 DD and I have 3 DC, so even paying out for birthday and Christmas 6 weeks apart means 2x£ for her and 3x£ for me. She has a DH earning big bucks and she doesn't work through choice, plenty of money for weekly haircuts and getting her nails done etc, I am a single DM and don't spend on myself as I'd rather it all went on the DC.
I am only saying about her lifestyle to not dripfeed show that it's not just number of kids, she has it a lot easier anyway, I would never judge her or mention it normally to her or anyone else. I don't take advantage in any way, if she asks my DD to go somewhere then I either say yes and send money with her, or say we already have plans if I can't afford it. I don't mention its that I can't afford it because I don't want to go on about money or make her think I want her to pay / make her feel obliged to offer, but she knows I struggle and will struggle more for the foreseeable so she can't say she didn't know because I never mention it.
So - AIBU to think she was really insensitive, and to be pissed off/feeling crap