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Friend lying about phone banking being down

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Dontlikeoranges · 06/12/2019 08:38

On Sunday the 1st of December I was out with a friend and she couldn't pay for any food or drinks as the nationwide phone banking app on her phone was not working she said the app said the service was down

Not to worry I thought these things happen she never takes her bank card always just her phone - not something I'd be happy to do but there you go.

Anyway I paid for everything food and drinks, it wasn't lots of money we weren't anywhere very expensive at all and it's not a problem paying for her. However I was speaking to a friend yesterday about switching banks and this came up and she said she had no problems at all with the app on Sunday.

Anyone else confirm if they had problems on Sunday? my friend has a little bit of form for lying I'm starting to be doubtful now!

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Outsomnia · 06/12/2019 12:01

I'd personally leave it for now, but on your next outing she pays... in cash!

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reallyrandomwords · 06/12/2019 12:23

The app being down wouldn't stop her actually paying for anything?

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PippiDeLena · 06/12/2019 12:39

So send her a text now asking her to pay you back. Something like:

"Hi TightFriend, please could you transfer me £XX from Sunday? Here's my details XXX"

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Dontlikeoranges · 06/12/2019 12:54

I'm going to leave it. She didn't say she pay me back but equally I didn't tell her to pay me back when it was working.
I'll never know if the app was down or not I guess, I just wanted to know if I needed to be cautious with her in future.
As I said she does have formn for lying and she is known to owe people money and for people to have to chase her it's just never happened to me before.

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dontalltalkatonce · 06/12/2019 12:56

Wow, well, if you're happy to keep funding someone you know is a lying freeloader, I guess it's your lookout. No idea why you'd want there to be a future with a lying rip off artist.

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BrokenWing · 06/12/2019 13:00

Give her the benefit of the doubt and assume it is a problem with her phone at the time.

Next time you are out tell her it is her turn to pay as you paid last time when her phone wasn't working.

Next time it happens, give her cash (if you have it) and say I'll lend you £20 you can transfer over once your app is back up and working.

If you cant say either of them to a friend, they aren't a friend worth having.....

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Dontlikeoranges · 06/12/2019 13:22

I've no intention to keep funding a freeloader, they're not a close friend, I'll put it down to experience and won't let similar happen again. Maybe she is a bit skint.

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incognitomum · 06/12/2019 13:38

I've just had similar with someone. I lent her some cash and she said she'd transferred it into my account payday. She'd put the wrong bank details apparently Hmm so it must have gone in someone else's account. I'm once bitten type!

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HariboLecter · 06/12/2019 13:54

She didn't say she pay me back but equally I didn't tell her to pay me back when it was working.

Most people wouldn't need to be told, they would just offer automatically, or say I'll pay for your next time.

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incognitomum · 06/12/2019 15:24

Exactly,lots of cheeky fuckers around.

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QuestionableMouse · 06/12/2019 15:26

My lloyds app will sometimes refuse to work if it needs to be updated.

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LadyAllegraImelda · 06/12/2019 17:02

I'd of said oh do you want me to lend you money? and offered to go to the cash point

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 08/12/2019 00:57

You could always say to her "so when are you going to take me out, your treat?" and see what she says? After all, that's effectively what you've just done.

Up to you though - and I do understand, it's more about feeling ripped off and lied to than the actual money.

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sueelleker · 08/12/2019 09:01

Gah. I hate people who do this. “Oh my apps not working”, “Oh my phones being really weird”, “I didn’t get that message”. CFs who use these excuses and that’s all they are because they don’t want to/can’t be arsed to pay/respond.
Is this the modern version of 'I forgot my wallet'?

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