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Nativity AIBU

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venusmay · 04/12/2019 22:28

My ds is a cow in the nativity along with a lot of his friends,he’s very excited about it and I think they will be very cute.

My friend’s ds has a small speaking part but she has made a point of being really weird about the nativity.She told me she’d been online and researched all the parts and that the part her ds has is almost on the level of the King with the play. I’m fine with this but then she started making fun of my ds because he’s going to be a cow. My ds didn’t hear this but AIBU to think this is petty and weird behaviour?

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Frenchw1fe · 04/12/2019 23:22

Knock, knock
Who’s there?
The interrupting cow.
The interrupting c
Mooo!

Just keep doing this joke . Your ds will love it.

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venusmay · 04/12/2019 23:22

Yes!Im dreading to think what she will be like on awards evening..which we have soon too.Oh God forbid her ds wins an award too.I will moo loudly from the back!

Seriously,what makes people get this weird when their children go to school?

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JoGose · 04/12/2019 23:25

Lots of moms like this at our school. DS1 is the donkey and it kicked off because someone else’s child wanted to be the donkey

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venusmay · 04/12/2019 23:25

She’s udderly awful...,sorry I couldn’t resist!

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MollysMummy2010 · 04/12/2019 23:25

I think the king as three words and is on stage for a short time - perhaps telling her something?

theemmadilemma · 04/12/2019 23:25

I love this time of year on MN. Nativity plays seem to bring out the batshit.

Hillocrew · 04/12/2019 23:26

Grin Venus

Hillocrew · 04/12/2019 23:26

You're milking it now Grin

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venusmay · 04/12/2019 23:27

JoGose it’s hard to understand how’s parents take it so seriously.Surely it’s just cute kids and a lovely occasion for everyone?!

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Jessbow · 04/12/2019 23:28

Remind her that if there were no cattle, there would be no stable, No stable= No manger.

Them 3 Kings might still be wandering around today if it were not for them cows

Louiselouie0890 · 04/12/2019 23:28

Does she really most parents aren't really listening to other kids and just gazing at they're own kids picking there nose 😆

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venusmay · 04/12/2019 23:28

Hillocrew .....brilliant! I’m patting myself on the back for that one!

Cow pat?! Oh dear I’m losing it now!

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CherryPavlova · 04/12/2019 23:30

There is actually only one starring role in a nativity and that’s usually played by a plastic doll.

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venusmay · 04/12/2019 23:30

I know JessBow.Her ds is a nobleman though so apparently this trumps a king.

As I write this I realise it sounds ridiculous so surely she thinks it sounds ridiculous too!

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Oliversmumsarmy · 04/12/2019 23:32

Hilariously over invested.

Ds was a lobster (try coming up with a reason a lobster doesn’t appear in the nativity scene ornaments in the schools reception area)

Dd if I remember correctly was a villager.

Doesn’t she realise that getting a lead in the school nativity in reception doesn’t indicate a Shakespearean acting career

JoGose · 04/12/2019 23:33

Exactly Venus, it’s just a nice event for the kids.its stupid how seriously some take it

Hillocrew · 04/12/2019 23:34

OP please ring her tomorrow and arrange to meet her for coffee. Say you want to talk about the nativity prep and as her son has a big part you want her advice etc

Then during coffee play cow joke bingo ..... count how many times you can throw a cow innuendo into the conversation without her catching on what you're doing!

I'm so sad I want to join you and the cow for coffee too!
I'm afraid I'd butcher it though as the steaks are so high I might laugh for the pure sake of amoosement!

I'm away to sleep now as I've seriously lost the plot!

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venusmay · 04/12/2019 23:35

She mentioned she’d thought of enrolling him in acting classes a few months ago I think that’s definitely on the cards now.

Yes,batshit crazy!

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venusmay · 04/12/2019 23:36

Hillocrew! You’ve definitely amoosed me and thank you for your advice.

Moo!

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avamiah · 04/12/2019 23:39

Hillocrew,
I am the least mean person you could ever meet .
My daughter has been for lots of auditions and never got the part but that’s no big deal to her or me as she did her best but wasn’t right for that particular part.
There is always another person who is a better dancer or singer than you and one day you hope that your that person ( and get the audition) .
Speaking the truth does not make you a mean person.

MinTheMinx · 04/12/2019 23:51

Sever the 'friendship' obviously, but keep a distant eye out when they get to secondary school. The kids of these kind of parents are invariably the ones who stand out for the wrong reasons. She might as well feel smug now tbh because it's likely it won't last.

marymungoandminge · 05/12/2019 09:11

she went online and looked at the story or script I think

Where did she get this "script" from?

my2bundles · 05/12/2019 09:22

Not sure how she could research it most schools write their own and add their own twists to the story . I remember when my DS was in year 1, one mum spent a good few weeks boasting that her child had the best part. On performance day her child was on stage for all of 2 minutes, my child with what she thought was a bit part was on the whole time and had the only speaking role. Her face was priceless 😂

Malbecfan · 05/12/2019 09:30

We had one like this years ago (DD is 18 now and this was at the end of pre-school). Uber-competitive dad who took a day off work every year to make his kids' world book day outfits... Anyway of course his DD got the role of Mary. My DD wasn't that bothered as she was cast as the Innkeeper and because even then she had a wicked sense of humour, they built her part up. UCDad's expression at the show was priceless!

Thehagonthehill · 05/12/2019 09:30

My DD progressed from star to donkey in primary.There were only 5 girls in her year so in her last year she asked for a part with not much speaking.She was given Mary who had one line but was on stage a lot.
We must be the only parents to ask for her to be demoted to an angel but her teacher wouldn't budge either.