To let my 10 year old let herself in

[Sunnydays999]

My husband would be in but would be in bed as on nights . Daughter is 10 but only year 5

Should add this is after school at 3.30 ish husband and would be getting up at 4.30

I don't see a problem with it

I would have no qualms at all doing this with my 10yo dd. She is very sensible. Are you talking about after school?

My dd used to let herself in while her dad was on night work - he was a light sleeper and she knew to wake him if any problems and not to open the door or answer the phone. He was generally up by 3pm anyway as he knew she was coming home (plus the cats had usually walked over him from lunchtime so he was awake!)

X-post.

What night shift does he work that he would still be in bed at that time?

Yes we live on the same road as school she already walks home alone .

Sounds fine to me.

Positive he can work up to 15 hours

How far is school? Are there any main roads to cross? Could she walk with friends/their parents, at least part of the way?

My Dd1 is in Y5 and I think on balance I'd trust her to walk and let herself in.

I'm considering the same thing for her after school club. My mum will be here with younger DS and dd2 and it will save her having to take them both back out again after an hour. I'm waiting til after Feb half term when it's light at 4pm again.

Ignore all that, massive x posts!

Why not as your husband is at home so some major disaster like a house fire would wake him.

Absolutely fine. You might want to make sure she can actually open the door - we have a dreadful lock that there is a knack to and it took the DC ages to get the hang of it!

Don't see a problem with that.

Get her to do a dry run but I'd have no problem with it. She needs to know she can wake her dad if anything happens obviously.

Great for her to get used to looking after keys and using the lock.

The school is very close no main roads . She already walks home alone as it’s about 3/5 min walk

Thankyou . My mother thinks it’s next to child abuse so I was wondering if I was off the mark !

Quite normal for that age around here!

I wouldn't even be questioning this. Of course it is OK!

No it's fine I used to do it then put the kettle on and make my dad a cup of tea

What night shift does he work that he would still be in bed at that time?

I see these comments a lot on threads about night shift workers. It’s not unreasonable to be asleep at 4pm if you work all night. In fact it’s more normal than not. I think people confuse night shift with people who work until 3am. Night shift often doesn’t finish until 8/9am.

Absolutely fine. if there is an emergency she can wake him.

My eldest had a key at that age and let himself in to an empty house

Absolutely fine.

Sounds absolutely fine.

Who is questioning why a night worker would be in bed until 4pm?

My night shifts are 9-9 and I spend a bit of time eating and relaxing after I get home at 10am so rarely get to sleep until midday. So I sleep until about 7-7.30 then shower, eat and go back to work.