AIBU or should I expect more from my DP on my bday

[ladyofearlybedtimes]

It's my birthday today and my partner has a commitment this evening which he can't get out of (annoying, but that's life), but he's now not sure if he will come over to me after at 8:30 as he has a 400 page essay to write due in the 5/12/19.
I feel a bit let down as he does have all of tomorrow day and evening to write it and I have easily written a 1000 word essay in a day.
I'm at work today and as a way of apology he could of sent me some flowers, but he hasn't bothered.
I saw him at the weekend and we went out for dinner for my bday which I had a card and present, but today is my actual birthday and it looks like i'll be spending it on my own.
Last year he lied about having an important uni commitment for my birthday and went to football instead, which he apologised a lot for, but I feel i'm being mugged off again.
I'm tempted to just tell him to stick it.

My DP used to be crap with birthdays. There was always something else that was more important, I even booked tickets one year for us both to go and see a show; even then he was annoyed and barely bothered. I asked before I booked if he was free, he said yes so they weren't sprung on him, and then the night before my birthday he said he had to help with something at work. He didn't, there were drinks arranged he wanted to go to, so he went, at the last possible moment left, and then after the show ran straight back there. I naievely thought he would change, but he hasn't. Not even an acknowledgement this year. I don't expect presents even, but something, anything, would be nice. I don't bother for his now which is sad as I hate being petty, it is a sign of bigger problems to be honest; but be honest with yourself at how he is normally, and whether he gives an arse.

Invite some friends around,get a take away,have a couple of drinks?
You've already celebrated with your dp,why are you expecting a double celebration with him when you knew he was committed?
Sorry op you come across as a bit martyr like ,you knew he was busy yet you arranged nothing with other friends and family,then complain as 'stuck alone at home'.
If you late to get friends around ,get a take away and watch your favourite film and enjoy some me time.
Happy birthday 🎂
I remember a colleague took a day off work once with no notice,he assumed as it was his special day he could just not turn up.😆

Happy birthday!

Yanbu he sounds like a thoughtless arsehole and tbh I would have ltb after my last birthday. I wouldn't bother with his birthday either if he couldn't be arsed to put any effort into yours

I agree it is rubbish and selfish. It is not what he wants to do, therefore you are not important to him, i am sorry. He has voted with his time, he has CHOSEN not to spend it with you on your special day- how has he made you feel special today? It speaks a thousand words ( not 400) , it is rubbish--= Have a Happy Birthday with your dc and a long think ( could you imagine doing this to him?)

Happy Birthday OP! It's my birthday today too and my DH is at work and its business as usual for me at home with the kids, we're celebrating tomorrow instead.
I think YAB a little bit U as you've already celebrated your birthday. It's unfortunate he can't come over tonight but life goes on. Is the issue that you think he's lying again?

Oh god OP just find someone better. Christ. Why even moan about it. If you think you deserve better then go find it.

Happy birthday

Sorry OP. I think you have bagged someone who lies, can't manage their time (it's one side of A4) and prioritises gaming above other relationship issues.

Tbh I think the essay thing is just an excuse as he doesn't want to drive over to mine. I think he's just selfish and this is just another example of things to come. Thanks all for your birthday wishes.

So he lies, spends all night gaming and then can't function the next day - you had to book the restaurant for your own meal - and you're pregnant by him - he won't change you know. Sorry to be blunt 🤷‍♀️ my advice would have been to get shot but that's a bit difficult now.

Missing the point but how is 400 words an essay...

Oh OP ethos doesn't bode well. A man who can't bother with you on your birthday and can't self regulate who stays up gaming all hours is unlikely to be much a husband or father. You need a plan B of how you'll cope with 2 on your own.

400 words is just a long paragraph. He can't even be bothered thinking up a believable excuse. Ditch him OP, he sounds shite.

Did you realise he was a selfish fucker before you got pregnant by him ?