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WIBU to remove his pyjama pockets?

53 replies

fortifiedwithtea · 03/12/2019 11:54

For context, been married nearly 25 years Dh is not going to change his ways. I have DD1 recently out of hospital and still ill. Dd2 learning disability and bi-polar challenging to say the least. And we are day 4 into having a new puppy. I am knackered.

I put a large load in the washing machine, all darks including the awkward low temperature concert tee shirts with printed images. Checked the pockets for tissues as DH has form for leaving them in pockets. But I missed one. The wash is covered in white fluff. Re washed the whole lot and no better. Washing is hanging on the line in hope that fluff will blow off when dry.

Hate the machine we have now, had lots of problems. It has a new fangled honeycomb drum which is supposed to be kinder to clothes less bobbling but it also means tissue fluff can not drain away.

I am so fed up with the washing. WIBU to cut the pockets off DH pyjamas.

Need to buy a big lint brush to deal with this.

OP posts:
BlueCornsihPixie · 03/12/2019 13:49

Just don't do his washing

No washing machine is that complicated. He can operate it, or learn to. He's just chosing not to.

It's not uneconomical, you just do a full load of your own stuff and a full load of his. How do you think single people manage? They just do less loads, not wash like one t-shirt at a time!

Disfordarkchocolate · 03/12/2019 14:10

I pick the seams so it looks accidental. I'd be fuming too; when my husband does this I calm down by plotting evil ways to get my revenge.

ferrier · 03/12/2019 14:12

YABU ... there are better solutions as pp have described.

Original poster
fortifiedwithtea · 03/12/2019 17:22

Thank you everyone, don’t feel so raging now but the pockets are going so soon as he misbehaved again. To the poster who said sew his suit pockets up you are a genius. DH commits the other crime of never using up loose change. Empties his pockets onto any shelf, window ledge work top is nearest. Periodically its scooped up and put in pots. He refuses to take the money to the bank because they change a fee for changing small change into folding notes🙄

OP posts:
SallyLovesCheese · 04/12/2019 07:45

Men's pyjamas have pockets?! misses point of thread

moofolk · 04/12/2019 09:05

Washing machines are not difficult to operate.

Men who claim not to be able to figure them out should not be allowed to operate other machinery.

I suggest you confiscate his phone, computer, car, and do not let him have access to the TV remote until he figures it out.

This week, hubby, you can do all the laundry.

Countryescape · 04/12/2019 09:32

Great idea! Do it!

summersherewishiwasnt · 04/12/2019 09:37

De fluff your own items. (Preference would be to add the fluff to his clothes). Do not remove any from his and no doubt he’ll ask and you tell him.
Wash his separately in future.

Cryalot2 · 04/12/2019 10:04

5 mins in tumble dryer sorts out a tissue wash.
It has happened so often .

Celticrose · 04/12/2019 10:10

I use up small change in the self service tills when only buying a few items.

Smellbow · 04/12/2019 10:18

I am the serial tissue offender in our house, and I would totally accept it as just punishment if DH cut the pockets out of my pyjamas.

Rushes off to check that DH doesn't have a Mumsnet account

smalalalalalala · 04/12/2019 10:31

Did the same with the questionning about washing machine: 'you know, darrrrrling, I'm not born knowing everything, I learnt, so get it done yourself'. He's not happy with it but now he is able to do it. Plus more he will do it, better he will be at it.

thenightsky · 04/12/2019 10:46

DH commits the other crime of never using up loose change. Empties his pockets onto any shelf, window ledge work top is nearest. Periodically its scooped up and put in pots

Oh yes... I have this one too (as well as tissues). DH has kept 'brown' coins in a huge plastic pot for years, as well as tiny 5p coins in another. They got so heavy the shelf broke!

I cracked when he went away for a fortnight. Took the lot down to Morrisons and spent ages feeding them into the coin star machine. Very satisfying. He was a bit cross, but he knew it made sense really.

bluebluezoo · 04/12/2019 10:53

Has anyone ever known a woman who found operating a washing machine difficult?

Yes. My mother. Has lived on her own 40 years and had a series of washers, cookers, showers and other household appliances she's never had a problem using.

However mine are all apparently next level complicated and require 20 minutes of showing her how to use them every day.

I do tell her to chuck hers in with ours as she only ever has a t-shirt and a couple of pairs of pants, but I only do full loads, generally on a weekend when I am not at work, and she washes every day, even if she's only staying two or three days.

tillytrotter1 · 04/12/2019 10:57

Be glad he's not a teacher, prone to leaving red pens in pockets!

Aridane · 04/12/2019 11:00

What's with this "do his own washing"? Isn't that a waste of water and electricity? Surely you get the maximum load regardless of whose it is?

Not of you're a skaters who only does a load when there are no clean clothes left and doesn't mind the dirty ones stacking up Grin

Aridane · 04/12/2019 11:02

Not of you're a skaters

Not if you're a slattern!!

Pilot12 · 04/12/2019 11:03

Give your DH the pile of fluff covered clothing and tell him he has to fix it - he may need to go over everything with a lint roller or sticky tape. He might be more considerate in future having realised how much grief leaving a tissue in his pocket can cause.

SlothMama · 04/12/2019 11:07

I'd stop washing his clothes and only wash yours, let him deal with the fluff

JamieVardysHavingAParty · 04/12/2019 11:11

He refuses to take the money to the bank because they change a fee for changing small change into folding notes

Get some banknote bags from the bank, follow the directions on the sides and deposit them into your bank-account.

They certainly don't charge for making deposits.

You can then withdraw the same amount you deposited, except in shiny banknotes. If you feel awkward about it, you can do it from the ATM.

PhonicTheHedgehog · 04/12/2019 11:17

I don’t buy tissues for this very reason! If someone sneaks an illicit box into the house I get rid-pronto. I bought a massive stash of cotton hankies and they go in a hot wash with towels. I still check pockets but it means this sort of rage inducing incident is less likely to occur.

I shouldn’t have had to do this just as you shouldn’t have to deal with fluff and pockets and washing machine crud. But the world is unfair and I’m just trying to live peacefully (mostly).

Jarline · 04/12/2019 11:28

@Preggosaurus9 that is a genius idea, I’m getting myself a Kallax this weekend!

SunshineAngel · 04/12/2019 11:39

My DSS does this kind of thing. Just shoves things in the wash, not even arsed. Tissues and a broken red pen in a pocket the other week, ruined a load of washing because of the ink.

Since, I have asked him to do his own washing, as I do not have the time nor inclination to check every single pocket - particularly as he only puts his washing in the basket when there's a whole basket worth on his floor, which can fill the machine about four times, then demands he needs it done NOW as he has NO clothes left.

You don't have to do this. I feel I have to do it for DSS as he is ultimately a child, but for your husband, no. Let him do it. Show him once and for all how to put the washer on the right setting and let him get on with it.

Pinkypie86 · 04/12/2019 12:05

:21TheFaerieQueene

I’m guessing he can operate other items. A car, a computer, a mobile phone, a tv remote control. None of these items are less complicated than a washing machine. He can do his own bloody washing.

Have you ever seen a man child try and operate the washing machine?
Grin
My lord, its painful.

Cut the pockets off OP, hide the tissues and buy him a mangle for xmas!

PhonicTheHedgehog · 04/12/2019 13:39

And the change thing. I use ours in the self service machines at the supermarket.

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