To be annoyed by extravagant elves?

[dontcallmeduck]

My social media is full of joyous parents sharing the antics of their elves. All fine, I even partake myself.

But why are the elves now bringing Christmas pyjamas, selection boxes, gifts, teddies and even tickets to events? Surely this is going to cause endless confusion amongst children whose elves (if they even have one) don’t???

Why can’t those gifts come from the parents?

Can you not see though @LaurieMarlow that it can’t be both ways?

You can’t say that you think more people don’t post about it than do and then agree with that statement.

its quite contradicting isn’t it

Our elf just hides each night and dd has to find him. Except she knows it's us who hides him

I am bloody delighted that my tweens enjoy seeing the antics of small stuffed toys every day.
They create their own vignettes sometimes.
It is the least commercial thing possible.

Growing up my Xmas was heavily present focused and adults telling me to be good for Santa. My dc have a much less commercial experience.

You can’t say that you think more people don’t post about it than do and then agree with that statement.

I didn’t say that.

I said NONE of us have any idea what percentage of the total universe of ppl who do EOTS post about it on SM.

We can all agree SOME ppl post about it on SM.

Hope that clears it all up.

dreichXmas: Growing up my Xmas was heavily present focused and adults telling me to be good for Santa. My dc have a much less commercial experience.

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That's another way of looking at it and actually seems quite good.

Anyway none of this affects me at all but It's interesting to learn how things are done for children nowadays. Then I'll be prepared if and when grandchildren come along - it will be up to the parents of course but I'll go along with whatever they do.

Elf on the shelf, Christmas Eve Box, Christmas Jumper Day = all things that didn’t happen when I was growing up. I have them in the same category as baby shower parties, gender reveals and extravagant hen/stag nights - it’s all a load of unnecessary bollocks. What has the world come to 🙄?!!

That creepy wee fucker elf doesn’t get anywhere near my house.

I also hate Christmas jumper day. Let’s all spend £10 (at least) on kids Christmas jumpers so we can donate £1 to charity. I’d rather give £11 to charity and buy a jumper they’ll wear for more than 4 weeks of the year.

My work is doing elf day too, because we all have elf costumes hanging around. Again £1 to charity if we take part!

Oh I know @dontcallmeduck - I bought my daughter a Xmas jumper off Facebook this year, it’ll only be worn for the day at school.

Don’t get me started on the fact I had to provide her with clothing for her reception play- £20 this dress has cost me.

Crackers.

It’s really pathetic to moan about what other people do for Christmas. I don’t do the elf or Christmas Eve boxes but I couldn’t give a shit if others do. I feel sorry for people who care so much about what other people do

I don't get whole 'the elf is watching you so behave' when actually the elf is doing really naughty shit like spraying the bathroom top to bottom in shaving foam! What kind of message is that sending 😆

We don't do it here, ds wouldn't understand anyway (asd) we do Xmas eve boxes though. Oh and I'm not a Christmas grinch, I've had my tree up since 10th November

YANBU. Some Christmas traditions are ridiculous. DD1 requested an elf one year to do for her sister (still believed at the time). I said no so she asked MIL who bought her not one but 2! I was bloody fuming and so was DH but we let her do it since it really wasn't affecting us. I've never done Christmas Eve boxes or matching pjs, however many times they've begged me over the years. I just think the whole "build up to Christmas" thing is silly - you wouldn't do that for a birthday!

We have an elf or two who have never featured in social media. They don't watch the DC either. They do however dick about doing fun stuff and make the kids laugh.

I don't care much who has an elf, doesn't have an elf; what the elf does or brings. Not sure why other people take such exception to a bit of fun.

I was given PJ's, sweets and something to watch/play with on Christmas Eve and I was born mid 1970's so the eve box isn't that new.

The only people who object seem to be those who feel they have to 'keep up with the jones's'. I couldn't give a flying one of your elf brings your DC diamonds tomorrow morning; ours is planning to wear his wee apron and make some cookies. I don't feel threatened by your diamonds. Why do people get so hung up on what others are doing? Just crack in and enjoy your own life.

Social media isn’t just about “bragging” it’s how most people families share their family snaps, “back in the day” you would take your camera to Kodak, and get the photos printed and then show family, it was expensive and a timely process which frankly people just have nowadays.

I have family all over the world, 5 sets of families between myself and dh, and not to mention friendships, and the family dynamics in between.

Sharing your snaps on social media isn’t for the vast majority “oneupmanship” or parents thinking £££ is substituting their children’s love it’s frankly, free, quick, efficient and gets the photos to all concerned.

I do/did elf on the shelf... I didn’t do it to brag or substitute my children’s love I did it because my children loved it, nothing more and nothing less!

*Don’t have

Social media isn’t just about “bragging” it’s how most people families share their family snaps

Surely a family wattsapp group would be more private for sharing photos.

Surely a family wattsapp group would be more private for sharing photos.

Depends on family, my mum is one of 17, my dad one of 8, dh family is one of 6 and then he has his father and his step mother.... then his step dads family.

My mum also has adoptive family, some of those individuals don’t talk to each other and all of 1 family don’t talk to another family.

If I wattsappt I’d have 30 groups or more... as I said its convenient and not time constraint...

@stucknu.....>'m 46 and we have always done the christmas pjs since my oldes brother's birth in 1973

No elf here; I think they're a it creepy.

We've got some nice things planned but I fully intend to take all the credit.

Father Christmas will bring one main present and some little bits in a stocking. Everything else (presents, decorations, days out etc) is there because mum & dad work hard for it.

You wear a Christmas jumper for 4 weeks of the year? WTF.

@HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend that’s another discussion entirely

“For those saying how can anyone find it creepy? Your right there is nothing creepy about a soft toy coming alive at night and running around the house. My friend has hers draw on her kids during the night l actually drawing on their faces while they sleep. No nothing creepy about that at all. Then she wondered why they wouldn’t sleep in their own rooms for weeks.”

I’ll let you into a little secret since you’re so frightened by it all...

THEY’RE NOT REAL

ps your friend is a psycho - that’s not the Elf’s fault

Wifework.