I’ve had a really tough few years, (I won’t go all ‘woe is me’ as it’s not really relevant to my predicament ) but the outcome is I’m single and have a DS (10).
I still live with ex due to finances so wasn’t really looking for any sort of relationship due to my living situation. It’s a difficult situation re finances which means I can’t separate from him just yet.
Anyway I started talking to a lovely man, it was just a friendship thing to begin with (he knows my situation) but it seems to be progressing a bit, we talk constantly, he makes me smile, we have so much in common and seem to be really connecting... we are both on the same page thinking ‘what if’ and this could turn into a relationship.
He wants to meet and I want to meet him but now to my predicament... I was diagnosed with Crohn’s as a teen, suffered all through my 20s (36 now), about 4 years ago I was told my only option was surgery. I got an op to remove my large intestine and now have a permanent ileostomy. I haven’t told him about this. I’m not going to sleep with him first meet but I am so so scared of telling him.
We talk about everything and sometimes it gets a bit sexual so both our intentions are that way inclined but I’ve left it so long I don’t know how to broach the subject. Do I tell him face to face? Do I tell him before we meet? Planning on meeting him for real next week and I’m so scared, I’m just so scared of rejection but it is something that I’m going to have to tell him about... what do I do?
I feel like just deleting him and being miserable and alone for ever but this is the first glimmer of... something I’ve had for years.